Before you stop loving a person, you need to understand whether there really was love for him. People often confuse falling in love, love and affection, although these feelings are completely different kinds. After all, it may well turn out that love was not, as such, and feelings were only projected.
What is love
Love is a kind of dependence on a person. It arises at deep psychological, physiological and spiritual levels, the mechanism of which has not yet been fully understood by man. At this moment, everything connected with the object of love takes on some special meaning. Makes life unforgettable and paints in bright colors.
People don't want to leave. There is a feeling of integrity, clarity, happiness - all that a person may lack for many years of life.
But there may come a moment in which the beloved or beloved ceases to live up to expectations. During such a period, a person can accumulate resentments and experiences. Love still does not pass, but there is a strong desire to stop loving.
Emotional release
It is extremely difficult for a person to independently analyze their thoughts and actions. A huge charge of energy accumulates in the head, which must be extinguished. The safest technique to help with this is writing practice. This technique will help to restore the integrity of thoughts and independently analyze the flow of events.
This is easy enough to do. All you need is a notebook, a pen, a little time and patience. In a relaxed environment, write down your feelings on paper. As capacious as possible, in the smallest detail and detail. Words on paper should be honest and should not be censored on their thoughts.
After all the emotions are described, you need to answer them. Conduct an internal dialogue and describe why this or that emotion arises in consciousness. There are reasons for everything that happens in our life, and they must be identified. This process can take a long time, but it must be done in one day. The volume of writing should not be less than a few pages.
Next, you should put aside the notebook and not return to it for at least a few hours, or even a couple of days. After this period, you should describe in detail the person who is actually needed. The way he needs to be. The description should be succinct, you should not miss a single thought that has arisen in your head.
After both descriptions are written, they should be compared, analyzed and appropriate conclusions drawn. You need to understand that no one will be able to change a person. It should be accepted as it is, or not at all. All the negative traits that are present in the object of love will develop over time and annoy even more. The worst thing is that everything described in 9 out of 10 cases will happen in the future.
A few days spent with a notebook will open your eyes to the stupidity of idealized thoughts. It turns out that these problems are not at all important in life, there are many more important things, people, emotions that are worth spending your energy on.
Two or three sessions of work with a notebook will make you stop loving a person and return to life to the fullest.
