Many people have long given up on their lives with its hopelessness and hopelessness. For some, the reason is numerous disappointments, for others it is constant pain. And the result is the same - unwillingness to see your life from the other side. You want fate to change itself, without making any efforts on your part, but you yourself do not want to change. But, first of all, you yourself need to change and change internally, change the course of your thoughts. And then change will come.
Instructions
Step 1
First, realize what you want to change in yourself and why you need it. Choose what you want to change the most. Start with one habit or character trait. After all, changing is completely impossible task. Having accustomed to gradually change your consciousness, it will be much easier to change other qualities. You have to decide what you want to become.
Step 2
Analyze your actions that you do under the influence of an unwanted trait. What emotions do you experience at the same time, what thoughts arise under the influence of these emotions. Find the reason, the root of this behavior. Sometimes, to get rid of problems, you just need to see where the problems came from.
Step 3
Decide how you will change your life. Here are a few tools to help you.
- Intelligence. In most cases, people live according to a certain program: home, work, home again. Awake and life will change. To do this, regularly ask yourself questions: "What really desires do I have?", "What is more important for me now?"
Then think about what actions will help you get to the most important thing. And get started. Only actions will lead you to the result.
Set goals for yourself, and then a clear plan will help you move forward. You can keep a diary of accomplishments in which you will write goals for the year, month, day. Now there is where to go, because some people do not even think about where they are going.
- Forgiveness. Get rid of grievances, such a load simply must be thrown away. You will not have the strength to change if you spend energy on resentment. Allow yourself to forgive all your offenders. Say out loud: "I forgive you (name of the offender) for that ….". After all, it is the grievances that torment you, and the offender does not care that you are offended at him.
- Love. Any person has a need to give and receive love. But first, you must love yourself. Only a person who loves himself with all his heart will be able to share love with another. Remember and write down your good deeds, positive sides. You will see that there are qualities for which you can be loved. Learn to express your love yourself. Tell your loved ones and yourself how much you love them.
- Communication. You need to learn to communicate, be open, and then people will be drawn to you.
- Spirituality and wisdom. Happiness is not complete without peace and peace of mind. You will acquire them by studying the spiritual laws of being. By following them, you can change the world around you and change yourself.
- Music. Pick up beautiful music that will allow you to relax both soul and body. Dissolve in it every day, sing, dance. By expressing emotions through the body, you will shake off unnecessary fatigue and aggression. Better listen to classical pieces.
- Joy. Find joyful and wonderful moments in each day, start it with a smile to yourself. Look in the mirror, smile, wish all the best. Share your joy with other people and they will respond in kind.
- Gifts. Make them to your loved ones and yourself. Buy a bunch of lilies of the valley for yourself, go to a cafe. Take a balloon and release it to the skies. Try to be a little in the child's place.
Step 4
Use the following exercise. Say "I want to change" as often as possible and touch your throat. This is the center where the necessary energy for change is located. Get ready for them. If you think that you cannot change yourself in something, then this is where you need to change. The forces of the universe will help you, and over time you will find positive changes in your life.
Step 5
Change, this is an interesting activity. Life is beautiful, turn your face to it only. Look for the positive in everything.
