According to statistics, approximately every tenth inhabitant of the planet suffers from social phobia. As a rule, such people are quite shy, withdrawn, shy. They are worried about what people think of them, and they can only relax and feel calm in complete solitude.
Reasons for isolation in oneself
Usually people withdraw into themselves out of fear of hearing criticism, fear of looking stupid in the eyes of others, making themselves ridiculous, and so on. In other words, it is easier for such individuals to stay on the sidelines than once again attract attention to themselves. Suddenly the reaction will be negative.
Sociophobes live with a constant feeling that those around them will be rejected.
Some fear not so much the reaction to their actions as the fact that people will notice the inner excitement. So some bad thoughts cause even more negative emotions. It turns out a vicious circle.
In a number of special cases, shy individuals are afraid to speak in front of the public, eat in public places, walk down the street when they are being watched, and so on. Often, this psychological disorder is associated with problems with self-esteem and a pessimistic view of reality. Hence the distorted idea of oneself, society, life in general and one's place in this world.
Perhaps the roots of the problem can be found in childhood experiences - constant criticism from parents, friends, or relatives.
There is an exit
To combat withdrawal, many psychologists recommend using cognitive behavioral therapy. It is important to evaluate not what is happening around, but your reaction to it.
Sometimes bad thoughts are poorly realized, and sometimes they are denied.
During therapy, you need to keep track of all your negative emotions and try to replace them with positive ones in the future. Based on this, it is necessary to develop new standards of behavior and, in accordance with them, begin to act.
In addition, one must remember that thought is material. If you think you are a boring and boring person, people will see you as a boring person. If you think you are an interesting conversationalist, those around you will also notice a similar quality in you.
On the other hand, you can try to pull yourself together. Write down, in descending order, what scares you the most. Next, start facing your fears face to face, moving from less significant to more powerful.
Also, learn to accept yourself for who you are, attend group trainings to increase self-esteem, think only about the good, smile more often. Still, the presence of problems in the past does not mean that it will always be so.
If you cannot cope on your own, you should make an appointment with a psychologist. However, treatment most often involves solely non-drug therapy.
