In the life of each of us there are moments when we get irritated, lose our temper and, in the heat of anger, say or do something that we later regret very much. In our hearts, of course, we understand that it would be better not to give vent to emotions. Just how to do it? Can you learn to control yourself?
Instructions
Step 1
When someone starts to piss you off, do not rush to speak up. Better keep silent and wait for a pause. In a minute, you will realize that you did the right thing.
Step 2
The moment you feel that you are about to explode with rage, draw more air into your lungs, hold your breath, and then slowly exhale. Take a deep breath for at least a minute.
Step 3
Think about how you look when you lose control of yourself, when you start to get angry. Your features are sharply distorted and your face takes on an unpleasant expression. You do not want to appear in such a guise in the eyes of others?
Step 4
If you can't stand it anymore, bang your interlocutor mentally or present it in some unpresentable form: perhaps after that you will want to laugh, and not enter into a skirmish.
Step 5
Fence off the unpleasant person with an imaginary wall or imagine yourself in some secluded, protected place. Imagine yourself in some pleasant place - in the forest, by the sea, somewhere in a small cozy cafe, in general, in a place where you experienced pleasant emotions.
Step 6
If you have such an opportunity, cool down - in the literal sense of the word - go out into the fresh air and wander or rinse your face, neck, hands with cool water.
Step 7
Give yourself a word that you will not lose your temper at the first opportunity. Restrain yourself twice tomorrow - and so gradually accustom yourself to a calmer attitude towards the stimulus. Analyze the situation and try to persuade yourself to hold back next time.
Step 8
Give your emotions a physical outlet. Any kind of exercise, fitness, bowling, jogging - whatever you want to do it. Including work in the garden or in the garden. Firstly, it will make you calmer, and secondly, according to scientists, by the manifestation of excessive emotions, the body signals the accumulation of unnecessary energy.
Step 9
Think about the fact that the other person also has the right to express their opinion and evaluate their surroundings, and it is not at all necessary that you like this opinion. This is not a cause for your annoyance. Yes, it may be difficult for you to communicate with someone, but we also need difficult people, because we, communicating with such people, train and learn wisdom.
