A quarrel is an extremely unpleasant phenomenon that can lead to very negative consequences. Therefore, it is especially important to be able to control yourself, even if it seems that the abuse will never stop.
During an argument, people are usually at their limit. They shout hurtful words and insult each other. Anger obscures the mind. But you shouldn't let your emotions take over your common sense. You need to try to restrain yourself during a quarrel by any reasonable methods.
Count to ten or leave the "battlefield"
If you’re ready to break loose and say irreparable stupidity to your opponent, try taking a deep breath and counting to ten. You will cool down a little and will be able to continue communication in a more peaceful manner. True, this method is not always effective enough. If you can't get the dispute back on track, go to another room and sit there for a while. It can also help you get into a calm conversation.
The consequences can be irreversible
In the process of a quarrel, it does not hurt to think about the possible consequences. Think that you can permanently ruin a relationship with someone you care about. You just break a vase or offend a loved one and loved one, and the relationship can no longer be improved. Therefore, try to think through everything you say.
You can use a simpler method. Just put water in your mouth. Perhaps this will force you to interrupt the flow of hurtful words and mutual insults. This method is often very effective.
Speaking calmly is better than swearing
Because of some stupid and careless word, you may no longer see a person dear to your heart. Therefore, during a quarrel, it is worth thinking about such a prospect. It is possible that she will be able to cool your ardor. But it is not recommended to keep the painful in yourself. Try to express everything that hurts in a calm voice without negative emotions. Without insults or recriminations, tell your opponent exactly what is bothering you at the moment.
Learn to listen to the interlocutor
In such an emotional state, people are simply not able to hear mutual claims. Of course, everyone just wants to yell at the offender and that's it. But such a solution to the problem will lead nowhere. Try to focus on what the other person is telling you. Maybe then the problems will be solved much faster. Think about what they are telling you, and, perhaps, the desire to throw a tantrum will subside a little. It turns out that any quarrel can be eliminated at the initial stage of clarifying the relationship.
