Quite often situations occur in life that lead to conflicts or quarrels. People get irritated, lose their temper, raise their voices and can lose control of themselves, which often leads to completely sad consequences. After all, not always words of regret after a conflict can correct the situation. And sometimes no one wants to fix anything at all.
There are some pretty effective ways to contain outbursts of anger and negative emotions. Let's take a closer look:
1. Count to ten. Quite a common way to calm down quickly. When a sense of the limit overtakes, and offensive words are ready to fly off your lips, you need to hold your breath, disconnect from the conversation, mentally count to ten. The peak of emotions will pass, and the ability to think clearly will return. Most likely, the need to say something hurtful and cruel will disappear by itself.
2. Concentrate on the words of the interlocutor. Of course, in the heat of conflict, you don't want to listen to anyone, but it's worth a try. Try to understand the opponent's speech, grasp the meaning and listen. Perhaps he is saying sensible things. In fact, many conflict situations can be resolved by simple calm conversation.
3. Leave the place of the quarrel. Do not engage in polemics, do not raise your voice, but simply leave the room for a while. Cool down, come to your senses and return to continue the discussion.
4. Imagine yourself in the place of the interlocutor. Try to grasp the idea of the opposite side. Perhaps another point of view will become clearer. And the desire to conflict will disappear by itself.
Also, one should not forget that any offensive words, insults do not color the person who utters them in the first place. They talk about his development and upbringing. In addition, with every quarrel that begins, it should be remembered that the consequences can be irreversible. Up to a break in relations, if there is a conflict with a loved one or loved one. Or disrupting a career if it’s a disagreement in the workplace.
In general, irritability in quarrels and conflicts is most often a consequence of stress. Therefore, in order not to get irritated in controversial situations, it is necessary to master the techniques of getting rid of stress, learn how to relax and release from negativity. Remember that, in general, conflicts are of no benefit to life. Rather, on the contrary, they are destroying what may have been built over the years. Therefore, you should not fall under their influence and lose yourself in the heat of a quarrel.
