Each person has shortcomings, and harm is often attributed to them. Nevertheless, the harmfulness of character is usually not a flaw, but a temporary property of a person, which is based on internal problems. It is very important to understand why you like to lash out at others, to be deliberately sarcastic or angry, and to spite people.
How do you feel when you try to be harmful?
Harm itself is not a cause, but a consequence, therefore, it is not necessary to fight with it. It is necessary to determine what is causing it. To get rid of harm on your own, you need to start observing yourself. When you show bad character, how do you feel? Typically, people have reasons to behave negatively towards others. It could be a bad relationship with a specific person, bad memories, selfishness, or something else.
Analyze your life to identify the factors that made your behavior harmful. Perhaps you are under severe pressure somewhere, and are trying to recoup in another place.
How to deal with what is happening
First, you should try to eliminate the cause of harm. This usually takes some time, but you need to work in this direction. Also start monitoring your own behavior and adjusting it.
Usually, harmfulness is understood as a desire to contradict others in everything. There are people who consider themselves to be right in any situation, but this is not enough for them, they constantly argue with others, proving their superiority. If this is exactly your type of harm, then do not argue with people. Just deliberately forbid yourself to argue, at least for a while. This does not mean that you need to agree with what you do not like, but if someone else's opinion does not coincide with yours, then try to avoid collision. Just leave the person or keep silent.
Those whose harmfulness manifests itself in releasing stinging comments to others often try to create a kind of shell for themselves in this way. This is usually due to low self-esteem, self-doubt, and fear of others. Work on it, appreciating and loving yourself is very important. Asserting yourself by humiliating others is a bad way to love yourself.
It happens that a person becomes harmful because he does not have the opportunity to apply his energy somewhere. In this case, find yourself a hobby or business to your liking. This will help you feel better and will also eliminate the need to siphon energy out in other ways. Sports activities also provide a similar effect.
Do good deeds
A great way to defeat harm, no matter what caused it, is to do good deeds. If you see an old woman walking up the steps with a heavy bag, walk up in it and offer her help. Take part in a charity event, make transfers to aid funds. When you can improve something somewhere, then do it. It is not necessary to tell someone about what happened, what matters is how you feel after doing a good deed.
