Character is closely related to a person's temperament, as well as his abilities. It determines the form of manifestation of certain reactions, as well as the dynamics of mental processes. You cannot change the type of temperament, but if you have developed willpower, you can control and correct the negative traits of your character.
Necessary
- - paper;
- - pen;
- - self-control;
- - a role model.
Instructions
Step 1
Please note that after the age of 30, dramatic changes in character are extremely rare. Still, it's never too late to try to change. To solve this problem, there are many methods based on the same postulate: the desire to change must be one's own and conscious.
Step 2
Write down the traits you consider “harmful” on a separate piece of paper. In front of each, indicate how it manifests itself. This will help you to ease control over yourself and prevent unpleasant behavior in the future. For example, your negative character trait is anger. It can manifest itself in the fact that you, often not listening to the interlocutor, begin to be rude to him. In this case, start to control your actions: try to listen to the person to the end, count to ten before you say some harshness.
Step 3
Choose a role model (this can be a real or fictional person). Start looking up to him, ask yourself how the “standard” would act in your place. Thus, by copying the desired behavior, you will develop the right habits, and the manifestation of negative character traits will be minimized. Just do not try to copy someone's behavior in a stereotyped manner. Here you need to understand that you are individual, and therefore some features will appear with a shade peculiar only to you.
Step 4
Take into account that a person's character takes a long time to develop, it is difficult to get rid of unpleasant traits, all this requires long and painstaking work. But only the first week is especially difficult. When controlling the manifestation of the "dark" sides of your character becomes a habit, it will become much easier to track your behavior. And soon what you didn’t like about your character will cease to complicate life, which will improve communication with loved ones.
Step 5
It doesn't matter which character correction system you use. It is much more important that you sincerely desire to change for the better, remembering that there is no limit to perfection.
