Before you plunge headlong into goal setting and start moving, you need to seriously think about priorities in all areas of life. Work, study, love, family, hobbies are all equally important. The rest of the sectors of the wheel of life will suffer from bending in one direction or another, which ultimately will lead to dissatisfaction and a feeling of incompleteness.
Three questions
To identify your core values, answer the following questions:
1. If I could combine work with a hobby, what would I do first?
2. If now I had 1 million dollars in my hands, where would I spend it?
3. If I suddenly found out that I have only 3 months left to live, what would I do during this time?
Specific, honest and accurate answers to these questions will help you understand what the true priorities and goals of your life are, what you want from it and why you live at all.
Be specific in defining your desires
Everything you want to know can be found on the internet. Anyone who uses search engines understands perfectly how important it is to correctly set the phrase. At first it seems that the search engine is simply incorrectly arranged, and the secret of success is only in the correct wording of the query to Google or Yandex.
So what do internet searches and your dreams have in common? You need to be able to formulate requests in relation to your own life just as succinctly. For example, you dream of wealth. But this is an absolutely dead desire, not supported by any details. After all, the rich can be friends, thoughts, soul. You can have rich hair … Or, for example, you want a car. You will most likely get one, but this machine could be a washing machine, a sewing machine, or any other that fits the meager description of your dreams.
Vague definitions are not only useless, they can be dangerous. In one of the episodes of the film "Wishmaster", the genie came to the prisoner and said that he would grant any of his wishes in exchange for his soul. He wanted to go through the bars. The spirit realized this by literally dragging the hero through the bars. But if he said: "I want to go out through the open door of this cell, go through the main entrance, open the prison gates and stand in full health on the sidewalk outside the grating walls," the demon would have done everything exactly, and the hero's fate would not have been so sad.
Long-term planning
This example is unrealistic, but it shows how to prioritize the most important areas of life. If you have written out in all the details for yourself a life plan for the next five years, you know where and with whom you will live and be friends, whom you will love, how much you will earn and what you will spend your money on, with a high degree of probability it will be so. So do not be lazy and make such a plan. Let not all of your plans be realized, but most certainly you will not regret the path traveled.
