What do you think is worth paying more attention to in life: advantages or disadvantages? The issue is controversial. Let's try to figure it out.
More often than not, in our life we tend to pay attention to the shortcomings, our own and others'. We tend to savor them, put them on shelves, make them the subject of our psychotherapy, try to correct them, remake them. On the one hand, fixing bugs is not bad.
On the other hand, I suppose that it will be much more useful and effective to study, collect, develop your merits. You need to know them even better than your shortcomings. After all, they help us in difficult life situations. Our dignity is our real, relevant resource.
Focusing on our strengths helps us overcome our weaknesses. When we devote all our energy to the development of virtues, the shortcomings simply do not have the space and strength to exist and progress.
Our weaknesses are usually linked to our strengths, you need to be able to see this. For example, are you familiar with a negative personality trait like grumpiness? But often it is associated with great life experience and the ability to give advice.
You can try to eradicate your quarrelsomeness, forbid yourself to show it both in words and in emotions. But you can also turn to the good sides of your grumpiness: experience and the desire to give advice. Experience is a person's wealth, his dignity in any situation. You can develop not only the desire to give everyone advice, but also the ability to do it skillfully. Not only take pride in your experience, putting yourself on a pedestal, but also teach others through your experience.
By focusing on and developing the positive traits of grumpiness, we negate the negative effects of this personality trait. She simply does not have a place in our life, she has no time and nowhere to manifest herself, and the need for this disappears.
Does this view of the problem of advantages and disadvantages seem unusual to you? Try to implement it. You quickly get used to good things …
