The ability to say beautiful compliments will help out more than once in a difficult situation. For example, it will help you to establish contact with colleagues at work or with new friends who share your hobbies. Alas, giving compliments is a real art that needs to be learned. But a few basic rules can be learned right now.
- The first commandment of those who want to learn how to say beautiful compliments is to talk about the inside through the outside, that is, praise the soul of the interlocutor through what can be visually assessed. For example, eyes: "Your look makes it clear that … and in general, I have never seen such penetrating eyes …". By the way, if you take a closer look at the eyes of vis-a-vi, you will definitely see that they are really insightful and intellect shines in them. This is one of the laws of nature - we do not notice other people's merits until we want to notice them.
- If you want to give a compliment, praise the person through his achievements, through what he put his work into. "I finished the apartment like candy, well, just some kind of palace …" The interlocutor can, of course, after these words grimace: "What do you mean by some?" But, most likely, it will blossom in a smile or, at least, politely stretch its lips, excessively proud of itself in its soul. This is also called "giving an indirect compliment", because here we praise not the person himself, but what is dear to him: mother - for the child, the mistress - for the house, grandmother - for the grandfather, grandfather - for the turnip …
- Tell in a beautiful compliment about your positive feelings that the interlocutor evokes; that your mood rises when he is around. “I trust you as I trust myself!” - just do not think, having said this, to ask for money on credit - this is clearly not the case. In general, any banality will do and will bring, in the end, the most good dividends, if it sincerely expresses what you think. Find the emotions in yourself, thanks to which you communicate with this person, and boldly turn them into beautiful compliments!
- Compare the interlocutor with something very important and expensive or very pleasant and interesting. The main thing is for him to know that this, the most "important and expensive", really occupies one of the leading places in the circle of your interests. Say, "You have the habits of a beautiful hound," if you are a hunter.
- When complimenting, use a contrast effect. Its essence is that at first you kind of express the negative, and then immediately compensate with a big bonus. “I wouldn’t say that your car is going quietly, I don’t hear it at all!” or "I didn't like your cacti, I'm just crazy about them!" Psychologists consider such a compliment to be the most emotional and therefore memorable for a long time. Let's believe them. After receiving a "minus" the interlocutor is ready to be indignant, but right there you give him a "plus" and he hears a nice compliment for himself, especially since he did not expect it.
- A universal way to increase the importance of a person is to turn to him for advice, ask his opinion on any issue. "Do you think I was not cheated too much?" - a question that is not recommended to be asked to a waiter, office equipment salesman or a lawyer, it is unlikely that it will raise their importance. But ask the designer if your socks go well with a tie, and if the suit is in harmony with the upholstery of the sofa, he will certainly answer. Moreover, he will read a long lecture on a given topic. If you endure, listen carefully, without interrupting, then by the end of the tirade you will find, maybe not a friend, but a very supportive comrade. And all because they learned to say beautiful compliments. Wiz-a-vi is very nice that people know him as a professional, because this means that he is respected, listened to the opinion, considered smart and experienced. Of course, the phrase “I would like to consult with you” is just a general formula, the whole art of a compliment consists in the ability to improvise, to choose the most appropriate words in each specific situation.
- You can't learn to say nice compliments and not know that the best compliment to the interlocutor is what is said about him. Take a closer look, maybe the one sitting opposite is somehow different from all other acquaintances? Find, mark, praise. "You understand me like no one else in the world!" - a great phrase not only for your reflection in the mirror, but also for another person. Show him his own exclusivity, uniqueness, let him be the best, funniest, original for a while.
