Every year there are more and more divorces in Russia. About half of the marriages of people aged 25-40 end in separation. In most cases, these families have children.
The worst thing about divorce is that the child begins to direct his aggression and protests inward, towards himself, which can lead to various neurological problems and neuroses. Increased aggressiveness, decreased academic performance, tantrums can also become manifestations.
A parent left with a child ceases to be reliable for him, because he is also immersed in his personal problems associated with divorce - self-doubt, fear of impending financial changes, fear of his own unattractiveness. One parent has left, and the other is not able to give him the necessary attention - a vicious circle from which the child cannot get out and becomes lonely and defenseless.
Correct divorce
If, nevertheless, the final decision to divorce is made, then as much attention as possible should be paid to the influence of this decision on the children.
The following rules will help to do this:
- Try to respect each other and not stoop to insults.
- The child must know the truth about the upcoming divorce.
- You should not scold the child for showing aggression in relation to what happened.
- Begin to devote more time to children, try to delve into all their problems and listen carefully.
- Don't turn against the other side.
- Try to show the child together that each parent loves him.
Only care, attention, love and understanding can try to reduce the negative manifestations of divorce for the child, and this should be done by both parents.
