Not all couples have a smooth marriage. Sad but true. Many married couples on their way encounter many problems, obstacles, failures. Of course, everyone has problems in life, but not everyone has enough strength, wisdom and patience to overcome them.
All this exerts strong psychological pressure on the spouses, misunderstandings and misunderstandings begin;
Family life is crumbling before our eyes. When all this reaches its peak, the spouses come to one only correct decision in their opinion - to disperse and go each his own way. It seems that in this way they will solve all their problems and the long-awaited peace will come in the life of each of them.
But in this situation, there may be one very big obstacle - a child.
Often, during a quarrel, spouses do not even notice how children suffer from this. Every parental quarrel can be a real stress for the child. After all, a child needs a healthy atmosphere in the house, parental love, their mutual love and understanding. Only in such an atmosphere can a healthy child grow up. Both from a physical and psychological point of view.
Nevertheless, if a final and irrevocable decision is made between the spouses to disperse, the child must be informed about this, and this should be done very sensitively and gently in order to save him from unnecessary stress and tension. Indeed, in such a situation, children are already too tense from the bad atmosphere in the house.
The first step is for parents to come to a general agreement on what and how to tell the child about the upcoming changes in the life of the family. They must take a unified position on this issue and clearly follow it. Psychologists argue that the child should be openly explained the essence of what is happening and its reasons.
A child, by his childish nature, is inclined to exaggerate everything, fantasize and attribute the divorce of his parents to his bad behavior. This creates a lot of stress for the child, it seems to him that the parents are divorcing because of him, that he is bad, etc. The spouses must clearly understand and realize all this in order to protect the child's feelings from unnecessary psychological trauma.
Of course, in any situation, one should take into account the child's age, his individual characteristics and explain the reasons for divorce in an accessible and clear language for him.
