The ability to "red", that is, to speak beautifully, has always been highly valued in Russia. The word "fluff" earlier did not carry a derisive and derogatory meaning, on the contrary, the person who received such a nickname was rightfully proud of it! And in many other countries, oratory was also surrounded by honor and respect. Because people understood well: everyone can speak, but to speak convincingly, on time, and only on business - such an ability is not given to everyone!
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, clearly define what exactly you want to convey to the interlocutor and what result to achieve. Starting a conversation "at random" without preparation is a serious mistake. Only a person with a perfectly "suspended" tongue and well-developed intuition can achieve success under such conditions, and here we are talking about mere mortals.
Step 2
Think about what arguments you will give in support of your position, what objections the interlocutor may have, and how to answer them. That is, try to think ahead of the conversation.
Step 3
Be sure to refrain from a categorical, categorical tone! Even if you are talking about the most simple and well-known things. Try to avoid the expressions "I think", "I am sure", "I insist." Much better will sound: "It seems to me", or "If I am not mistaken." At the same time, do not mumble, do not "beat around the bush", that is, speak clearly and to the point. A person who speaks politely, with restraint, without unnecessary words, evokes a benevolent reaction, and the one who gets confused cannot get to the core of the problem - just the opposite.
Step 4
Try to find out in advance in what mood the person with whom you are going to talk, if he has recently had trouble. In this case, under any valid excuse, postpone your conversation until a more appropriate time.
Step 5
At the very first remarks of the interlocutor, try to determine which style of conversation will be best for you. If he answers with short, restrained phrases, you should also speak succinctly, in no way distracting from the main topic. If he is clearly not averse to talking about life, then you can also joke, tell some short funny story, anecdote or an incident from life. But don't get carried away! Everything is good in moderation.
