Childhood shyness manifests itself as restraint in communication or even rejection of it. Adults encouraging modesty in a shy child only add to the difficulty of interacting with others. A person learns the ability to communicate from birth through contacts with parents and other close people. It depends on their characteristics whether the child will be free to communicate or be shy.
Instructions
Step 1
Monitor your communication with your child. Note how often you use prohibitive statements. A prohibition without explanation is of particular importance for the formation of shyness. According to psychologist F. Zimbardo, the more such prohibitions there are, the more likely it is that you communicate like a “warden-prisoner”, a normal dialogue between which is practically absent. Fear of communication appears.
Step 2
Consider whether you enjoy being active and loud children's voices, or the restraint and silence of children in the house. Children try to live up to their parents' expectations and behave accordingly. When expecting and demanding constant restraint from them, children behave obediently, not showing initiative in communication and activity.
Step 3
Show your child a variety of ways to interact with others. Attend children's events more often, go on a visit, take your child with you to the store. Looking at you, he will memorize various situations of communication and ways of resolving difficulties that arise.
Step 4
Don't notice that your child is shy when meeting other people. He has many other personality traits that are worth paying attention to. It is better to say not “He is silent with us”, but “He loves to think, to reflect. So smart is growing. Not only today's communication depends on these attitudes, but also the further development of the child.
Step 5
Invite your child's friends over. The baby will feel more confident in his apartment. He will be able to show his toys, talk about his parents, play his favorite games, which he has long mastered and has no difficulty in teaching others to play. At home, the support of the parents is felt, even if you do not interfere with the communication of the little owner and his guests.
Step 6
Help your child understand difficult life situations that cause difficulties in communicating with people of the opposite sex: living in the Oedipus complex (4-5 years old), first falling in love with a peer (10-12 years old), sexual attraction (12-15 years old). Sincere conversations without blame will help him understand the specifics of this relationship and overcome shyness.
Step 7
Be aware of your child's interactions with peers. Already from elementary school, children give each other nicknames that are derived not only from the surname, but more often indicating any defects in the child's physical development: "Fat Man", "TV Tower", etc. An adult should interfere with this kind of communication, especially, if the nickname indicates fictional defects, and the offended child withdraws into himself.
