All people found themselves in situations where they were embarrassed about something. However, for some of us, shyness is not something that happens sometimes, but a feeling that they experience almost every day. Shyness, timidity, self-doubt for someone can become an inseparable part of their personality and an obstacle on the way to a harmonious happy life. Shyness can be overcome, but it requires deliberate effort and daily work on yourself.
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze, what are you ashamed of in the first place? For example, you are not confident in your appearance, or it seems to you that you are not as smart as the people around you and do not express your own thoughts so beautifully. Remember that the main cause of shyness is not in the world around you, but in you.
Step 2
Understand that all people tend to think more about themselves and not about you. Don't take it personally. If you feel that someone is dismissive of you, then it is quite possible that this person had a bad day, life is unsuccessful, or he is embittered with the whole world for some reason hidden deep in his past. What do you have to do with it?
Step 3
Do you at least have a general idea of who and what you will have to face in a day? Prepare for this. Make a list of questions that you can ask people about them, about current events, about the weather, about the books they have read. If you always know what to ask, the conversation can be easy and enjoyable. Remember, most people love to talk, not listen. You will be known as an exceptionally pleasant conversationalist.
Step 4
Focus on your strengths. We are all different, but there is not a single person who would consist of some disadvantages or some advantages. If you are shy about your appearance, find something that is perfect in you. Do you have big ears? Disguise them with hair and accentuate your graceful hands. Learn to gesture beautifully and appropriately. Are you not versed in literature and art? But you know so much about dogs or plants that you can give advice to anyone who needs them. Even professors of art history departments.
Step 5
Words can carry incredible, overwhelming energy. What we say to ourselves repeatedly and what we often hear from others shape our personality. If you keep repeating to yourself - I cannot, I am too shy, then this will remain with you. If you repeat to yourself day after day - I am a confident person, I am a charming and interesting interlocutor, then our subconscious mind will sooner or later come to terms with this statement, and will have to build its work, taking these facts into account. Visualize your positive self-image. Simply put - dream!
Step 6
You don't have to be a perfectionist. You should not compare yourself with the most popular person in a team, with a model or TV presenter. If you expect too much of yourself, you will never be satisfied with what you really are. You cannot become the second Brad Pitt or Oprah Winfrey, but it is within your power to become perfect in who you are. And, perhaps, you are real, much more than your invented idol.
Step 7
Be confident. Don't give in to panic attacks. Straighten your back, push your chin forward, walk boldly, looking forward, do not lower your voice when talking, do not stutter. How you hold yourself, like what you tell yourself, is how people will perceive you. Tune in ahead of time. Do breathing exercises.
Step 8
If you do not like noisy clubs, public speaking, big companies, there is no reason to make yourself feel uncomfortable, just because everyone loves such entertainment. Find people you like to walk in parks, go hiking, plant flowers, or watch ballet and spend more time with them. By the way, all those who visit clubs and noisy parties every night are not necessarily completely happy with such a pastime, perhaps they just go with the flow. You can go to a club, speak at a conference, enjoy a noisy celebration, then when you need it, why force yourself when you don't want it?
Step 9
Take pride in your success. Analyze the past day and look for moments in which you behaved the way you want, forgetting about your shyness. You can even write down your victories in a diary. Focus on how you did something, not where you failed.
