During times of severe stress, certain biochemical processes take place in your body that provide the ability to cope with the piled up situation. On the other hand, frequent stress and fear can easily poison your existence. After all, if you are constantly in a state of emotional stress, there is no time for life. Therefore, fears must be fought.
Instructions
Step 1
Study your fear in detail. Disassemble it into its components, determine what is the reason and what possible consequences you really fear. You need to understand what exactly scares you - the cause itself or its effect.
Step 2
If you can't mentally tune in to analyze the feeling of fear, write it down on paper. To do this, you must always have a notebook and pencil on hand. As soon as you feel the origin of inexplicable anxiety - proceed to the description. It is not necessary to describe in detail everything that you are experiencing at that moment. It is enough just separate words and laconic phrases containing brief information about mental images and impulses. The bottom line is that fears, reflected on paper, acquire a certain form and even materiality, therefore they look primitive and groundless. In addition, it is difficult to write down the same phrase dozens of times and not stop seeing the meaning in it.
Step 3
Move from understanding the essence of the problem to an ironic look at it. By cultivating a lighthearted attitude towards your fear, you achieve two results. First, your problem starts to look ridiculous in your own eyes. Second, you shift your focus from fear to gaiety. To achieve the effect of irony, talk about funny to yourself, make fun of yourself out loud in front of someone, attract friends to your fun.
Step 4
Concentrate on the details. If you feel that fear rolls over again, begin to perform any action (related to it or completely extraneous) as carefully as possible, focusing on every single detail. Concentration of attention on something specific eliminates the presence in the mind of a place for something else, including fear.
Step 5
Learn to relax. If your fear is in no way connected with a specific action, or maybe due to certain circumstances, you cannot concentrate on something, relax. As soon as you feel the next wave of anxiety, start taking deep breaths and slow exhales. In the meantime, try to relax your body with an effort of will. The need to achieve relaxation is explained by the fact that this state takes away the opportunity to experience strong emotions. Relaxation is characterized by the slow flow of lazy thoughts and emotional stability. The fear still remains, but it is perceived as something insignificant and harmless. And over time, you will stop noticing it altogether.
Step 6
Look into the "great" eyes of your fear. This is a very common and effective way to deal with fears. Fear is essentially the brainchild of the unknown. People are afraid of the incomprehensible, the strange, the things that they cannot explain. Therefore, it is necessary to get acquainted with your fear, even if not immediately, at least from several attempts. Gradually, fear crumbles. Do what you fear. Afraid of being the center of attention? Perform on stage. Are you ashamed of your figure? Visit the sauna or nude beach.
