When a person experiences fear, despair or hatred, it seems to him that the painful feeling will last forever. For those who find it difficult to get through difficult times, psychologists recommend following the tips below.
Optimism is a matter of practice
It often happens that a person mistakenly believes that if he finds the reasons for a difficult situation, to prove the correctness of his actions, it will be easier to get through difficult times. But all these futile attempts only add to despair, depression, and self-pity.
The ability to rejoice, according to psychologists, is nothing more than a habit. In the brain of a person who does not know how to extract positive from any events occurring in his life, the neural pathway responsible for a positive perception of the world is not activated. The same feature of the human body can be expressed in a simpler language: everyone can program themselves for a happy life and good health.
Making optimism a habit is not so difficult. You just need to find and "deposit" your own memory those little things that are inconspicuous at first glance (fleeting feelings, smells or sounds), to which, like a hook, the positive "clings".
As one of the simplest methods of "looping on the positive", psychologists advise the lucky beginners, finding themselves in a particular situation, to ask themselves: "How can I benefit from this experience?" This and similar questions, based on a feeling of gratitude to Destiny, are the easiest and most effective way to change the train of thought and get rid of depression and depression forever.
Negative experiences have value too
Many people fear that an unconditional belief in success will lull their vigilance, make them vulnerable, and draw unhappiness into their lives. According to the American psychotherapist Philip Perry, the main condition for success is learning to accept negative events and feelings instead of avoiding them. Fleeing from unpleasant experiences, Philip is sure, is tantamount to a forced stop in the very heart of a viscous swamp, personifying an experience that has not been lived through or a voluntary refusal of the opportunity to learn an important life lesson.
Prayer can help you get through tough times
For people of faith, psychologists believe, it is much easier to get through difficult times than their non-religious brothers in reason. For Christians, one of the ways to cope with life's ups and downs is to pray for other people. Wishing others happiness, health and good luck, it is easier for a person to understand that his own difficulties are no different from other people's adversities.
Finding himself in a difficult situation, a person is faced with a choice: to love, believe, accept, give, care, fear, attack, manipulate … and so on. The one who chooses love - casts out fear and anger. He who chose war sinks deeper and deeper into the abyss of hatred.
