The worst grief for parents is the death of their beloved child. When this happens, it seems that life is over and there will never be anything bright and good in it. In such a situation, it is necessary at all costs to find strength in order to be able to cope with the pain of loss and start all over again.
It is necessary
- - The Diary;
- - consultation of a psychologist.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not hold back your emotions: cry, scream - give vent to all your feelings. Whenever possible, do this alone, being careful not to intimidate other family members.
Step 2
Putting aside heavy thoughts for a while and freeing yourself from pain, try to analyze what happened from the outside. Your child has passed away, it is very sad, but thousands of children die every day in the world. All people are born to die. Yes, he was too small, he could have a whole life ahead of him, but what would it be - happy or not? You do not know this. If you believe in God, it will be easier for you to bear the pain of loss. After all, everything happens according to the will of the Lord, doesn't it? Believe in the possibility of meeting your son or daughter in another - eternal life.
Step 3
Do not withdraw into yourself, try to lead an active lifestyle. At first, it will be very difficult for you to do something: leave the house, work, eat, go about your daily activities. Force yourself to overcome the reluctance to do anything.
Step 4
Team up with other family members to cope with your grief. Don't blame them for suffering less than you; each person experiences grief in their own way. If you have more children in your family, turn your attention to them, they are also not easy now. Among other things, they also sense your emotional state.
Step 5
Remember that time heals any pain. Gradually, day after day, try to add some new positive to your life, let it manifest itself even in small things: an accidentally dropped smile for someone from your loved ones or friends, a gift for yourself or your beloved family members, watching an interesting positive film, and etc.
Step 6
Keep a personal diary, write down your feelings, emotions, experiences in it every day. Writing them down on paper, think that you are leaving all this in the past, getting rid of sad thoughts with each new day. Do not forget about the positive points, they are also worth mentioning in your diary, make plans for the future.
Step 7
Do not blame yourself for what happened, so you still will not change the situation. Accept the idea that the universe is much more complex than it seems to humans. What people think is strange, cruel, unfair, in fact, has some kind of innermost meaning.
Step 8
If you feel that you cannot cope with the pain of loss, you have all the signs of depression, see an experienced therapist. Through individual conversations or group communication with people who are facing exactly the same problem as yours, you can return to normal life, even if it seems impossible to you right now.
