The death of a beloved spouse is always sudden, and the feelings caused by it are also sudden. Someone loses a husband due to his long illness, and someone - as a result of an accidental catastrophe. At the same time, with each passing year, as the day of her husband's death approaches, the pain may increase. A photo of you smiling together in sight can cause tears. How can you cope with despair and feelings of detachment, how to survive the death of your husband?
Necessary
correct communication skills
Instructions
Step 1
Accept the inevitable. Death is the inevitability of all living things. Someone will die earlier, and someone - a little later. None of us can change that. By protesting against the inevitability, we only increase the time of our suffering. If the meaning of your life revolved around caring for your husband, then now you have to reconsider your values. If you were previously considered a courageous person, now is the time to prove it to yourself. You are stronger than you think. Take a mirror. Looking into your eyes, say, “Yes, it happened. I cannot revive my husband. But maybe I'll meet him someday."
Step 2
Set new goals for yourself. Avoid indifference. A purposeless life will quickly lead to personality degradation. Look ahead. Your husband's life was cut short, but your life goes on. You don't have to live only in the past, although memories will bring joy over time. Be glad you had happy days. Set a goal to enjoy simple things every day: the smiles of family and friends, the warmth of the sun, or the beautiful singing of birds. Choose and read an interesting book.
Step 3
Immerse yourself in beneficial activities. Be busy, try to do something useful for others. It will help you find joy in life. Give comfort to those facing similar loss. According to one widow, when you share someone else's grief, it is very helpful to get through your own grief. You can write letters to such people. Let your creative talents unfold with renewed vigor.
Step 4
Make new and interesting friends. To isolate yourself from everyone is far from the best way to fight despair. Of course, loneliness, if not abused, is useful. Surely you have accumulated a worthy experience in married life. Share it with your friends. Help young couples appreciate each other. Share pleasant experiences from your experiences. Who knows, maybe some of your new friends will write a book in memory of your dear husband.
