Mutual understanding between men and women is a complex topic that has caused difficulties since the most ancient times. Representatives of the opposite sex often behave like aliens, and it is not so easy to understand what they are thinking. But if you find out what thoughts men hide, then perhaps it will become much easier for you to understand them. Knowing exactly how a man thinks, you can competently build a strategy for communicating with him and not be surprised at his sometimes "strange" behavior.
Men make up ratings
It's no secret that men are warriors and fighters. They are used to fighting for a place in life, winning the love of women, position on the career ladder, and much more. That is why in their heads they always make up their own personal rating, build a hierarchy of achievements and qualities, according to which not only the actions of others are assessed, but also their own. For them, there is a standard of behavior for a real man, and conforming to it is the highest goal. It is on this that his self-esteem and opinion about himself depend.
If a man achieves success, then in his own eyes his rating increases, and in others, according to the man, too. Friends must match his own rankings. Not necessarily in the area of career achievements, it can be personal qualities or something else. But a man will not have comrades among those who are significantly behind him in priority areas, considering them to be losers.
For women, this assessment does not apply or acts in a different way. A man assesses a potential partner according to completely different characteristics, so there is no point in trying to impress him by demonstrating masculine qualities. A man can transfer such a woman to a male rating, respectively, she loses positions in his female top, after which she is perceived exclusively as a business partner or a good friend.
If you have achieved much greater success in your career than a man, then in order for him to correctly assess you according to his rating, let him know that his other qualities are important to you: courage, decisiveness, masculinity.
Men do not understand women in the same way as women do men
It is for this reason that it is sometimes so difficult to convey to a loved one some of your thoughts, you just speak in different languages. Affects the habit of women to speak in hints, expressing most of the meaning in emotionally colored words, and not in logical maxims, as it would be more convenient for a man. Additional details, without which it is difficult for a woman to perceive the whole situation, only distract the man's attention, he loses meaning and focuses on the little things he does not need. In the end, he generally ceases to understand what they are trying to explain to him.
Do not hint to him that you want more warmth and care. Simply say that if he covers you with a blanket when you fell asleep and forgot to hide, then you will be pleased. If you want him to give you flowers, also tell him about it directly. Don't forget to clarify what kind of flowers you prefer! The main thing here is not to overdo it. Suffice it to say once.
Men's memory works very differently
It's time to talk about how men's memory works. Unlike women, who for the most part remember the mood and emotional coloring of events, men remember logical facts. That is why, if you are jealous or offended by him, then, as soon as the emotions are gone, you quickly forget and forgive. A man fully forgives only when he logically justifies for himself the reason why he should forgive. He remembers the essence of the event for a very long time, but the emotional interpretation can change over time.
So, if you flirted with someone, and he was jealous of you, then he will remember what you did at that moment, what words you said and what look you gave the interlocutor. You can convince him that your words did not contain the emotions that he recognized, but trying to make him forget about this episode will not work.
Men think about relationships several times less than women
The fair sex spend hours thinking about what his words meant. They worry about how the man perceived them, discussing all the twists and turns of the current romance with their friends and mother. But men don't do that. Relationships take up much less space in their thoughts.
If a man has a relationship, he enjoys it or experiences unpleasant emotions in this regard. He analyzes how good this phenomenon in his life is for him. This does not mean that he does not give a damn about the development of relations, and he is not ready to do something to improve them. He just perceives it all very differently.
To better understand what topics men care about, pay attention to the headlines of glossy men's magazines. There will not be topics about the psychology of relationships, but there will be questions about sex, cars, finance.
Men also want attention and love
Women, focusing on how to understand what a man is thinking, can forget about why they actually spend time together. There is a universal language of communication available to both sexes: this is love. Take care of the man, treat the relationship with him as something important, give him warmth and attention. This is what will allow not only you to begin to better understand him, but also him - you.
