Every day, people are faced with a variety of irritants. Someone at work, someone at home. Situations can be different and everyone perceives them differently. The child broke the vase, the husband returned late from work, the subordinate did not complete the task. All of this causes anger. At such moments, everything inside is boiling with anger and you can say unnecessary words for which you will be ashamed later.
Reasons for anger:
- Offended pride. Some people think that the offender specifically wants to offend or hurt their self-esteem with their behavior. It hurts. And there is a desire to take revenge.
- Feelings of helplessness. It's always easier to jump on the weaker one. A person often feels hurt, afraid or unable to protest. In such cases, all the anger can pour out on the child who came under the arm. This is easier to do than to subdue a hated boss.
- Recharge with aggression and the desire to direct it to others. Very often, at work or in other places, a person is in a rather tense environment, where they yell at him. Having received a portion of anger, it can be dumped only on defenseless people who will not be able to fight back. But you need to remember about the "boomerang" effect. After all, all the bad things will come back in a multiple size someday.
- The desire to defend your point of view. When a person suddenly flares up in response to criticism of others, this means that he is unconsciously trying to defend his opinion in front of people with whom he was once going to argue. These can be parents, teachers, and others.
Ways to deal with anger:
In order not to offend the people around you, you need to give up the stressful situation in time. You can tell the interlocutor that you are very nervous and that you need to end the conversation in order to avoid conflict. After that, leave the room, calm down and return with a fresh head.
You can imagine an enemy. It helps to relieve stress and get relief. To do this, you can make a dummy or hang a punching bag and engage in a fight with an enemy. You can also imagine the abuser in a funny situation. For example, how he fell into the mud or spilled something on himself.
To control outbursts of aggression, you can hang a photo of the screaming person over the table and try not to look like him.
Psychologists suggest writing a letter to your abuser. You should dump all your negative emotions on paper, read them and tear them up.
In order not to succumb to fits of anger, you need to alternate work with rest. On weekends, you can go to relax in nature, go to bed earlier, walk more often and play sports. It has been proven that physical activity charges with a positive.
You can try breathing exercises. In critical situations, you need to take a deep breath and hold the air for a couple of seconds. You need to repeat 10 times.
Sedatives will help to bring yourself to your senses. It can be both pills and herbal tinctures.
But it's best to understand the cause of your anger and deal with the problem right away. Otherwise, aggression will haunt your whole life.
