Irritability, anger and anger not only harm a person's health, but also contribute to the deterioration of his relationship with friends, family or colleagues. If your life has turned into a series of constant conflicts with yourself and the people around you, it's time to stop and seriously think about changing the situation.
Possible causes of anger attacks
Analyze what exactly annoys you, what are you dissatisfied with, what are the reasons for your conflicts? Perhaps you are placing too high demands on yourself or the people around you. Maybe you are angry because you envy someone and think that life is easier and easier for another person than for you?
The reasons for conflict situations can be very different, it all depends on the specific case. But whatever the external reason for irritation, there are almost always deep reasons hidden deep in your consciousness, attitude, etc.
Try to honestly answer the question: what do you lack for happiness? Perhaps you consider yourself a person who is not fulfilled professionally or in family terms? Are you satisfied with your job? Are you happy with your family? If the roots of your temper tantrums are in one of these problems, they need to be addressed.
Methods for dealing with bouts of anger
To combat violent expressions of aggression, you should work on changing your worldview. Who most often falls under your hot hand? Your relatives or subordinates? Colleagues or friends? Feeling once again the approach of a wave of anger, say to yourself "stop!", Take a few deep breaths and exhalations, count to yourself to ten, remember a funny anecdote, etc.
Learn to respect other people, including their right to shortcomings, because you remember that there is not a single perfect person in the world, right? If someone is late, forgot to do something or did something wrong, before yelling and getting angry, remember that he is an ordinary person who could face various obstacles, circumstances, lack of practical experience, etc. Be more tolerant of people.
Give up the habit of constantly comparing yourself to someone, remember that each person is endowed with certain character traits, abilities and skills, and they may be different from yours. If someone succeeds in one thing, you are most likely ahead of him in something else, do not allow thoughts of envy and hostility towards people.
Remember also such concepts as kindness, mercy, compassion. Develop these qualities in yourself, strive to help those in need, not necessarily with money or something material. A kind, sincere word, a friendly encouraging look, your friendly hand - this is what many people need when they find themselves in a difficult life situation.
Learn to leave your work problems far beyond the threshold of your own home, learn to relax, disconnect from everyday worries and affairs. Go in for active sports, find an interesting hobby.
Track your mood, keep a diary in which you write down everything that worries and worries you. Try to soberly assess the degree of importance of these problems for you, often people tend to exaggerate the problem, making a scandal from scratch. Write down possible ways out of this situation in your diary. Work on harmonizing your own consciousness, various meditations, life-affirming affirmations, yoga will help you in this.
Sometimes, in order to calm down and stop getting angry, it is enough to break free from the daily hustle and bustle and rush for a while, take a break from endless affairs, change the environment. Go somewhere out of town, take a walk alone, put your thoughts in order. Concentrate on the positive traits of the world around you, discard all the negative - and you will see that attacks of anger will appear less and less, until one day they completely lose power over you.
