Being attractive to people is not as easy as it seems at first glance. To attract a person, you must have a number of qualities that are not given to everyone.
Instructions
Step 1
The first thing that will attract another person to you is your appearance. Neat, discreet clothing should suit you and emphasize your personality traits. When you feel the harmony of the external with the internal, it will no longer matter whether you are in a simple suit or in an extravagant dress - you will be interested in your whole image.
Step 2
Be friendly and welcoming, but do not lose yourself for these manifestations. Often, in order to please, we gaze intently into the eyes, constantly smile and nod, but this is hardly so attractive from the outside. Especially if you are not an outgoing optimist, your behavior will look sugary and somewhat disingenuous, so be yourself.
Step 3
Try to listen attentively and interestedly to the person and ask questions on occasion. But in parallel with this, do not forget to express your original position on some issue, and if it seems interesting to a person, he will look at you differently, and a mutual connection will form between you.
Step 4
Keep an open pose and don't hide somewhere in the corner. Freedom in movement and movement testifies to inner freedom, and this quality is very attractive to people, especially those who themselves are somewhat constrained and squeezed. Find the very middle where you can feel at home and at the same time be polite and considerate.
Step 5
By repeating the name of the person you want to attract, you are unknowingly complimenting them. In childhood, we were often called by our first name, but with age this happens less and less. A person often sees his name written on paper, so these sounds unexpectedly uttered by you will undoubtedly revive the interlocutor, delight and fill him with a feeling of gratitude to you.
Step 6
Be kind and open. You should feel a sincere craving for a person, a desire to help him in something, to share with him some periods of life. If a person feels that he can trust you, that you are not an accidental passer-by in his life, then the chances for future communication are much greater. He should not think that you need something from him, everything should be just the opposite - it is necessary for him to appear in you. To do this, mentally send your positive energy to the person, direct it in his direction.
Step 7
At the end of the conversation, make a small hook, in popular psychology, this is called "throwing a hook or anchor." You must do something that will not end your communication, but will involve some kind of meeting in the future. It can be something simple, such as inviting the person to go to an exhibition of interest to both of you, or to your place where you have a collection of stones.
Step 8
Or make a more subtle gesture - give something. It should be something insignificant, but something that will often be in front of a person: a keychain, pen, magnet or postcard on the wall. When you transfer this item, transfer some of your energy with it. Also, you can give a book to read, which implies a further meeting to return it and discuss the impressions.
Step 9
Do not be afraid. Fear is strongly felt, because this is that nervous pulsating energy, next to which it is not so pleasant to be. You may be embarrassed, but by no means be afraid. Plus, this paralyzing feeling will rob you of some of the charm you need to attract someone.
