Psychosomatic infertility in women has become more and more common in recent years. But how exactly is the psyche able to influence the conception of a child? What psychosomatic reasons prevent a young and healthy woman from getting pregnant and becoming a mother?
It is possible to speak about the psychosomatic causes of infertility in women only if, according to all the test results, the woman is healthy, but it has not been possible to conceive a child for a long time. The basic reason for such a delicate problem, which can be very difficult to experience on an emotional level, is, oddly enough, fear. Fear can be overt or hidden, it can hide behind any excuses. Moreover, in each specific case of psychosomatic female infertility, the specific fear may be different. Sometimes inside a woman, several different frightening and alarming grounds can also gather, negatively affecting the psyche and resulting in the inability to conceive a child.
What fears form psychosomatic infertility
Many types of fears have their origins in childhood. Some of these fears may be the result of upbringing, the little girl absorbs other fears, seeing real examples. The child's psyche is very sensitive and vulnerable, even a minimal impact that causes strong emotions, leaves a deep impression in the child's mind, and can lead to the formation of various psychosomatic problems.
The inability to conceive a child due to psychosomatics is most often based on the following fears from childhood:
- personal negative experience; if a girl grew up in difficult conditions, she had a difficult childhood, then this forms a certain idea of the world, family and motherhood; in adulthood, a woman, trying to get pregnant, subconsciously retains children's negative images that do not allow pregnancy to take place; for example, if a girl often faced corporal punishment in childhood or grew up in an incomplete family, this can become the basis for the development of fear;
- parental settings; often parents unconsciously transfer their problems to the child; a mother who had a difficult birth may frighten her daughter with stories about how difficult it was for her; a grandmother, who in the past has undergone several forced abortions, can strictly tell her little granddaughter that she should not bring a baby in a hem in any case and must plan a pregnancy in advance; parental attitudes can be of a different type; for example, a girl is taught from childhood that it takes a lot of work to raise a child, that before pregnancy you need to arrange your life, a career, that you must definitely choose a suitable man for the role of father; if, in adulthood, the parents and the closest circle of the girl do not approve of her young man or husband, this becomes another reason that causes psychosomatic infertility;
- a certain style of education; if a girl in childhood does not receive the necessary sexual education, if issues of sex and pregnancy are prohibited, intimate topics in the family are not discussed at all, the child begins to perceive this as something shameful and forbidden; this translates into fears and fears that sex is bad, that pregnancy and childbirth are bad, as a result, this leads to the impossibility of conceiving a child; another option: if the girl is raised only by her father, if the girl grows up surrounded by brothers or is raised as a boy, this leaves a certain heavy imprint on the psyche;
- a traumatic situation in childhood, not related to personal experience; in childhood, it is not difficult to scare and impress; if a little girl accidentally heard scary stories about pregnancy, saw any film where children suffered in dysfunctional families or during the war, this can affect the child's later life, result in a psychosomatic cause of infertility in a woman.
However, not only children's fears can become the basis for the formation of the psychosomatics of infertility.
Other women's fears and fears that do not allow getting pregnant
Specific fear of motherhood. If a woman is not ready to take responsibility for the unborn child, then this will affect her reproductive function and lead to infertility. At the same time, such reluctance is often not realized. It is directly related to the fear that the woman will not be able to cope with the child, that there will not be enough money, that she will give the child a bad upbringing, and so on.
Fear of being alone. If a woman on a subconscious level is not sure of the man who is next to her, this will not allow her to become pregnant. However, this fear can also drag on again from childhood if the girl was brought up in an incomplete family and saw and felt how hard it was for her mother. Not wanting to repeat this, a woman unconsciously denies the role of a mother, the psyche simply does not allow conception to happen.
Fear of miscarriage or health problems. Concerns about health can spread both to the well-being of the woman herself and to the health of a possible unborn child. This moment can intersect with the fear of loneliness after childbirth, because there are often cases when a man-father leaves the family if a disabled child is born. Fear of miscarriage, fear of not being able to bear a child is a very strong emotion that blocks all possibilities for conception. If in the past a woman has already had some unsuccessful pregnancy experience, then this has an even stronger effect on the psyche. The fear of giving birth to a still child, fear of a frozen pregnancy, fear of late pregnancy, and so on fall into the same category.
Fear of losing sexuality and attractiveness. It is no secret that a woman's body changes during pregnancy and after childbirth. Fears that it will not be possible to return the body to its previous shape after the birth of a child can be so strong that they will nurture a psychosomatic cause of female infertility.
Additional causes of psychosomatic infertility in women
Fears alone are not limited to reasons due to which a completely healthy woman cannot conceive in any way. The psyche is also capable of influencing the reproductive function through other emotions, experiences and thoughts.
Factors supporting the state of psychosomatic female infertility:
- a strong feeling of inner guilt for something and, as a result, self-punishment through the impossibility of conceiving a child;
- unwillingness to have a child from a man with whom the woman is married or in a relationship; in this case, the idea is implied that the girl married an unloved person, that the man for the daughter was selected by the parents, and so on;
- a certain - often unconscious or not recognized - benefit from life without children;
- in a situation where a woman is forced for some reason to actively take care of her parents or relatives, they form an unconscious unwillingness to have a child; if a man in a family behaves like a big child, this can also cause psychosomatic infertility in a girl;
- attitudes towards infertility; such attitudes could have formed in adolescence, a woman may not even remember her thoughts at that time, but they left a vivid imprint on her psyche; dislike of children, disgust, statements like “I will never have children, I don’t want them” lead to psychosomatic infertility;
- any kind of everyday problems, including financial ones;
- any kind of negative self-hypnosis, negative self-programming; this may be the result of a neurotic state, when a woman cannot get pregnant for a long time, although she is completely healthy; at such moments, a woman may begin to think that she is in some way inferior, that she is unworthy to have a child and be a mother, and so on; these thoughts take the form of some kind of gum, constantly spinning somewhere on the periphery of consciousness and do not allow you to relax; another version of negative self-hypnosis - “why are we trying again, last time it did not work out and this time it will not work to get pregnant”, such an idea does not allow you to relax during intimacy with a partner and does not leave any opportunity for conceiving a child;
- internal resentment, anger, irritation directed from a woman to her mother; this factor, as a rule, originates from childhood again, although it can also form during adult life under the influence of certain circumstances; the role of the mother is seen by the woman as something bad, frightening, difficult and unwanted; the word “mother” itself is associated with any sad, frightening events or situations that have caused other strong negative emotions in the past;
- if a woman is a leader by nature, if by nature she is stronger than her man and the role of the head of the family belongs to her, this can affect the reproductive system.
