Adolescence brings many problems not only to the child, whose body is undergoing major changes, but also to his parents. Quarrels, scandals, mutual misunderstandings often occur. How can parents safely survive this difficult adolescence of a son or daughter?
Instructions
Step 1
The teenager tries to escape from the care of his father and mother, rejects their instructions, requests, often behaves demonstratively rude. One can understand the discontent of the parents. They gave their child so much time, energy, warmth, took care of him, raised him, and he suddenly became so rude, disobedient and ungrateful. But the father and mother should show understanding and wisdom, because the teenager is not to blame for the fact that a real hormonal "storm" is taking place in his body. Precisely because the adolescent endocrine system has started to work at an accelerated rate, starting to produce a large amount of hormones, the child's behavior changes so dramatically.
Step 2
Parents should remember that they too were once adolescents, causing their own fathers and mothers a lot of trouble, grief, worries. It makes no sense to complain about what is arranged by nature itself. You just need to be patient and wait. When the restructuring of the body is completed, their son or daughter will behave much more intelligently and calmly.
Step 3
When communicating with a teenager, you should, if possible, avoid commanding, categorical tone. You should also not demand from him a constant report: where he was, with whom he met, what he did. A teenager with a 99% probability will take it with hostility. Of course, you should control that the teenager does not get involved with bad company, for example. But we must try to do it unobtrusively. After all, young people and girls of this age simply cannot stand excessive guardianship.
Step 4
If a teenager is very complex because of acne on his face or being overweight, or because he (as it seems to him) is lonely, no one needs him, no one understands him, parents should not dismiss his problems. And even more so you shouldn't make fun of: what nonsense, you are going crazy from idleness, we would have your worries. You should gently and delicately convince him that everything can be corrected, that any problem can be solved if desired. The main thing is that the teenager is sure that his parents love him, are always ready to listen and help.
Step 5
Of course, you cannot indulge a teenager in everything and resignedly endure his antics if they have already crossed all boundaries. If necessary, you need to strictly talk to him and even punish him. But even in this case, one should not unduly infringe on the self-esteem of a teenager, which is already very vulnerable. For example, you should not force him to ask for forgiveness or swear that he will no longer behave this way.
