There are girls who have come up with a rather offensive name - "gray mouse". Someone likes not to stand out from the crowd, to be modest and shy, but most secretly dream of becoming like that acquaintance who can find a common language with everyone and will be in the spotlight at any party. To become the same and show your individuality, there are some steps you can take that will at least begin to reveal your personality to the world.
First, you need to draw an image of your ideal self. The one you want to be. Yes, don't jump straight into a makeup brush or buy acidic nail polish. First, just dream. When the image is formed, you can already begin to embody it. After all, not everyone wants to be a vamp woman with blood-red lips and at one glance make men stack up in piles. It is enough for someone to look as natural as possible, fit, and also learn not to get lost in the presence of strangers. The desired image is an important stage in any work on yourself.
Secondly, you need to work with your own self-esteem. Until the inner work on oneself is completed, it is not even worth moving to the outer one. Evaluate why you are squeezed, what are you ashamed of, and what kind of complexes are asking to come out. Once the most important problems in self-acceptance are revealed, it becomes easier to work. When a person has adequate self-esteem, he will be able to respond to rudeness, and confidently say "no", and defend his own point of view.
Thirdly, it is necessary to move to a positive outlook. Every day you need to remind yourself that "I am the most charming and attractive …" and further in the text, which everyone defines for himself. This kind of auto-training really bears fruit. You look, a stranger on the street will wink even without active action on your part. This point can be described as self-love. Allow yourself to be yourself, love your strengths and weaknesses, accept yourself completely, and then it will become easier to relate to the world with a positive.
Fourth, you need to think about appearance. It has long been known that there are no ugly people, you just need to be able to emphasize your charms and hide flaws. The most skillful people generally turn their faults into strengths. If you are not satisfied with your own figure - go to the gym or the stadium in the morning, if you are not happy with a smile - to the dentist, if the hairstyle resembles straw - to the beauty salon, if the wardrobe is more suitable for the grandmother from the second entrance - urgently to the store. There is a solution to any problem, the main thing is not to worry about it, but to start working.
Fifth, pay attention to the formation of communication skills. If there are barriers to communication, it is imperative to find out the cause. If you cannot find out on your own, you can turn to a psychologist for help. Once the intrapersonal problems are resolved, it will be much easier to change behavior. Set challenging goals for yourself at first (for example, talk to 10 strangers in a day) and complete them. Until you do, forbid yourself to go to bed. A dozen strangers a day is not that many. Just remember how many people you meet on your way to work.
