If colleagues do not notice you at work, considering you a "gray mouse", men barely hold their gaze at you, and your friend once again calls on you to change your image and become bolder, then the time has come for a change.
Instructions
Step 1
Sign up for self-confidence courses. Or consult a psychologist or psychotherapist on this topic. Do not spare money for this. A competent specialist will help identify your fears and suggest ways to remedy the situation. Self-confidence is the key to success both at work and in your personal life.
Step 2
Analyze your thoughts. If you constantly criticize yourself, scold yourself for something, try to change the situation. Recognize that you, like many other people, are imperfect and have the right to make mistakes. Maintain a positive attitude: Watch comedies, read your favorite books. Say pleasant words to yourself in front of the mirror every day. Draw your ideal image in your mind. Think about specific steps that will bring you closer to this look.
Step 3
If there are people in your environment who want you to remain a "gray mouse", limit your communication with them. Often people like to assert themselves at the expense of others. If you have a bright girlfriend and she invites you with her to further emphasize her beauty and ability to communicate with the opposite sex, think about whether it is worth keeping her company? Connect with people who can support you in your desire to change.
Step 4
Improve your self-esteem. Write a list of your own achievements, abilities, skills, as well as your positive qualities. Set small goals that you can achieve today: do not lower your gaze when talking to a person, do not slouch, etc.
Step 5
Change your wardrobe. If you used to prefer practical and modest clothes, go shopping (preferably with a friend), try on outfits that you did not pay attention to before, considering that they are not for you. If you are unsure of your own taste, seek help from a stylist or a fashionista friend. Take advantage of clothing catalogs. There are many mail order companies. As a rule, ready-made solutions are presented in most catalogs - you can immediately pick up a complete wardrobe for all occasions. This option is also suitable if you live in a small town or do not really like shopping. Browse the catalog in a relaxed, cozy environment and order your own clothes.
Step 6
Tidy up your hair. Visit a good hairdresser, get a manicure. Nothing inspires confidence like great looks. First of all, try to please yourself.
Step 7
Increase your professional value. Timely master the skills necessary for your work, take advanced training courses, take responsibility for some area of work. When talking with colleagues, look the other person in the face. Defend your point of view reasonably if you are confident that you are right. Practice ahead of time if you know there is a serious conversation ahead of you at work.
Step 8
Work on your voice. No one wants to listen to a lifeless, monotonous voice with hysterical notes. Record your speech on audio and try to determine what impression your voice makes on the interlocutor. Special exercises will help develop your voice. Speak calmly and confidently. Don't be wordy.
Step 9
The transformation from a "gray mouse" into an interesting personality can happen both gradually and instantly. In the latter case, wait for a vacation, when you can devote all the time to yourself. Unexpected changes that have happened to you will draw attention to you.
