Our life is very complicated. And therefore you need to be able to discover it for yourself, otherwise you will simply disappear. But how can a shy person open it? He is ashamed of everything, he is always afraid, awkward. As practice shows, such people do not add up.
Of course, it would be much worse if people were not ashamed of anything at all. But everything should be in moderation. It is believed that this trait is laid in childhood. But what was laid at an early age does not necessarily remain with a person forever. Under the influence of the environment, various circumstances, the child may not be shy.
But how can an adult stop being ashamed?
To answer this question, you need to find a reason. Why are adults shy? And the best way to explain this is to those who are shy themselves.
They often say: “I won't succeed”, “I cannot”, “I cannot cope”, “I don’t know”, “I cannot”. Shy people are insecure, fearful, and pre-programmed to fail. For some reason, they consider themselves worse than those around them and therefore are afraid of other people's opinions.
But, if you look, the abilities of shy people are much higher than those of their environment. It turns out interestingly, some have very weak abilities, but they achieve great success in life, while others are very capable, but they have not achieved anything.
So what's the secret?
Never lose your enthusiasm and presence of mind. If in infancy, after the first fall, we stopped trying to walk on our own, began to think how ridiculous we looked at that moment when we fell, we would not have learned to walk.
To stop being shy, don't be afraid to make mistakes! Do not stop after the first defeat, do not think about what others will say about you, calmly take criticism.
Analyze your failure and move on to your goal. Many famous and successful people were shy, but they managed to get rid of this quality. Thank God that getting rid of shyness does not require surgery.
There are many ways to get rid of shyness.
First: you need to think less that you will definitely find yourself in some stupid position.
Secondly: you need to try to be in public all the time, not to withdraw into yourself, to communicate more with strangers.
Thirdly: always remember: everything that happens to you is your own business, and the opinion of others is only their opinion, and it has nothing to do with you, it does not affect your personal life.
And most importantly, ask yourself: what could you achieve in your life if you were not shy? Try all of these rules. After all, you are no longer a shy person - are you ?!
