Relationships with loved ones are valuable and important to many people. You need to be able to keep them kind and good, but at the same time do not forget about your desires and interests. It is quite possible to do this.
Instructions
Step 1
Respect the people close to you. This capacious concept includes many aspects, the main of which are: respect for the human right to be oneself and to make mistakes; understanding the needs, feelings and desires of others; acceptance of the worldview of people close to you, etc.
Step 2
Communicate with your loved ones more often, even if you are very busy and have a busy work schedule. Take time for quiet, intimate conversations, discussing any issues, etc. Having fenced off from your husband or wife, children, parents with a wall of silence or endless deeds, you, most likely, without noticing it, will hurt them.
Step 3
Do not refuse to participate in various family events: parties, picnics in nature, etc., even if you do not like noise and fun. If you have the desire and ability, take the initiative to organize the next family celebration for yourself. For example, celebrate with the whole family another anniversary of your parents' life together.
Step 4
If you are in a bad mood, try not to rip it off on your loved ones. It is tempting to answer rudely, find a reason for a scandal, slam the door, but try to cope with the negativity on your own. Ask to be left alone or take a walk in the park, put your thoughts in order, calm down.
Step 5
Remember that a family is the most valuable thing you have, loyal loving people cannot be replaced by any money. Try to treat loved ones with care and love, do not expect them to do everything exactly the way you want. Remember that everyone has the right to be tired, bad mood, etc. Therefore, if your wife did not prepare dinner for you or your husband did not make the promised purchase, do not rush to make a scandal with a showdown. Smile, defuse the situation with a joke, find a compromise - this is what truly strong and loving people do.
Step 6
In the desire not to hurt loved ones, do not forget about your own interests. Feel free to express your personal opinion, defend your interests, but do it tactfully and reasonably. There are often situations when a person, trying to please relatives in everything, forgets about his own desires, completely dissolves in others, loses himself. If you follow this path, then your loved ones, unwittingly, will begin to experience a consumer attitude towards you. In addition, sooner or later your true "I" will begin to protest against such violence against yourself and you, as they say, break down and destroy the usual style of relationships. This can be quite painful for everyone.
Step 7
Be yourself, love your loved ones, be sincerely interested in their affairs, strive to help relatives in difficult situations and try not to create problems where they can be avoided. You should also not get carried away with the re-education of negligent relatives, constantly teach them worldly wisdom and emphasize your superiority over anyone. Remember that yours and theirs may differ significantly. Better to work on eradicating your own shortcomings.
