Emotional intelligence plays a big role in the life of any person. If he is sufficiently developed, then such a trait helps to better understand himself, better analyze the emotions of other people and, as a result, find a common language with them. You can develop this trait throughout your life. There are some simple ways you can improve your emotional intelligence in adulthood.
Diary of emotions. These notes should be an emotional analysis that needs to be done every day. This will allow you to more clearly understand your feelings, find the correct explanation for them. Records will help to understand various situations that arise in life, because, as a rule, any event is accompanied by an emotional reaction. In addition, a diary of emotions will help to identify the degree of negative experiences that can negatively affect well-being, success in work or school.
Raising the level of awareness. One must learn not to deceive oneself, not to try to hide true emotions and feelings from oneself. Any feelings, but especially negative ones, require full awareness. By understanding and accepting his emotions, it is easier for a person to let go of them from himself afterwards.
Emotional training. There is a fairly simple exercise that is also suitable for the development of children's emotional intelligence. Its implementation will help to understand the differences between some feelings from others. Regular exercise in front of a mirror will make it easier to "read" the emotional state of the people around you. What does this exercise include, how to carry it out? Initially, you need to prepare 10 blank cards / sheets of paper. Then you need to write various emotions on them, trying not to be limited only to the most commonplace. When everything is ready, you need to stand in front of the mirror and start, without looking, pulling out the cards, then trying to depict the feeling that is written on the piece of paper.
Initially, many people, looking at their reflection and trying to demonstrate even banal joy, get lost, embarrassed, feel constrained. But don't give up. Among other things, such an exercise also allows you to relax, it raises your spirits. Gradually, it will become easy to depict various feelings with facial expressions and gestures. Over time, you can expand the list of emotions, add a few more cards. It is important to do this workout regularly, giving it at least half an hour a day. Only in this case it will be possible to achieve results.
Expansion of vocabulary. Oddly enough, but learning new words and their meanings, which are related to the emotional spectrum, have a very positive effect on the awareness of feelings, on the development and increase of the level of emotional intelligence.
To begin with, you can play with yourself as follows. Take a piece of paper and write a list of 10 words that will represent certain feelings. Then you need to try to come up with synonyms for each word. Any feeling can be described in general terms, or you can give it more facets, realize it deeper. So, for example, "joy" can be described as "delight", "positive", "inspiration", "anticipation" and so on. You should try to find as many additional words as possible to describe the selected emotions. After that, note for yourself at which moments it was especially difficult, which of the feelings have only a couple of additional associations. After analyzing, it is already worth moving on to the direct expansion of the vocabulary.
