In modern society, a person's requirements for himself are high. But how not to overdo it so that self-esteem remains in a positive direction? How can you lower the bar of requirements for yourself and not lose strength along the way?
Life is cyclical, and it's normal that sometimes people will feel out of place, dissatisfied, and then out of nowhere - energy, strength and inspiration. All this arises for a reason, for this you need: rest, purpose, pumping energy and health. And most importantly - their attitude to what is happening and reactions to it.
Society constantly dictates what a successful person should be. Another thing is how you can cope with this and how to react so that in the end the person is not destroyed.
Under the influence of a ton of information about the success of others, people begin to constantly raise the bar for themselves what they should be: "We are desperately jumping, jumping, but we cannot jump." Forces are less and less, desires too.
Points that can help reduce the requirements for yourself:
- When a person makes demands on himself, investing total energy, in the end everything is so exasperated to him that there is no longer any pleasure with satisfaction. Burnout sets in, which is postponed in all areas of a person's life. But it’s hard to stop. Pareto's law says: 20% of the energy invested will bring 80% of the result. And the remaining 80% of the effort is only 20% of the result. And no, this does not mean that a person should lie on the couch 80% of the day, reading a book about the smart for 20 minutes a day, and wait for the weather by the sea.
- If you like to do something, you have to do it, you should not listen to what others say: people always shout from their bell tower. Everyone gains their own experience, of course, listening to the opinions of successful people or those who can be respected for their experience. All the details of their path will never be known.
- Everyone has their own supply of energy and hence the bar of requirements. Someone can pull up on the horizontal bar from habit 5, and someone all 25 times. It is influenced by genetics with health, and by the environment, interests, i.e. the weather in my head. A person should train himself, but not be exhausted. Sometimes it will seem that something has not been completed yet. And the body whispers quietly - that's enough. You need to listen to him! Because then fatigue accumulates so that it will be difficult to get out to the previous level of strength. Temporary stagnation will come.
- It is impossible to do everything, and at the best level. There are many great things that can be done, but not everything. Stop presenting yourself with a million impossible tasks: you can do something better if you focus more on one thing, rather than spray on everything at once. A lot of energy will be wasted.
- You always need to do something, but without any special "ulterior motive". "The quieter you go, the further you'll get." To do: yes, everything is really simple. People constantly talk about their plans, desires, but that's just the point - they just talk. As practice shows, those people achieved more, who discussed less everything, but did it. And not a month later they fired, whoever was lucky, but after years.
- Don't limit yourself to pleasure. It distracts, it gives variety, a new round of energy. You can concentrate totally on making money, but at the same time forget about the family and how good it is just to walk with your children in the park. A person, without noticing this, begins to become drier, and again becomes less energy.
- You can endlessly set yourself a bunch of demands, but it's like an allergy, it will progress until the source of irritation goes away. You need to work on your self-esteem, often because of it there is an overestimation of the bar that cannot be jumped over, and as a result, self-esteem becomes even lower. A "vicious circle" appears, from which it is already difficult to get out.
- It won't be easy, but it won't be wildly difficult either: just do it, little by little. There is an irritant in life - fix it or get away from it. The person feels when to stop. Nothing terrible will happen from this. And will it be that important in a year?
