Frequent stress, various problems, constant deadlines and tension, difficult people with whom you need to somehow find a common language, lack of personal time and positive events - this is not a complete list of reasons that can cause increased aggression. How to deal with this condition?
The life of a modern person is very dynamic. To keep up with everything and everywhere, you need to put a lot of effort every day, spend a lot of energy. In the bustle of days, there is often no way left to devote time to oneself, to listen to what the body or psyche asks for. Due to stress, lack of sleep, poor nutrition and lack of normal rest, the level of internal aggression can gradually increase. When the inner vessel is completely overflowing, emotions pour out. This can lead to strong outbursts of aggression and anger, to serious quarrels and conflicts, to inappropriate or affective behavior with negative consequences. Therefore, you should learn to control your aggression, get rid of it in time.
5 tips to reduce aggression
To speak, not to hush up. Often, the amount of aggression inside a person accumulates due to the fact that you have to constantly postpone any important conversations. Hushing up problems, avoiding answers, unwillingness to spoil the mood of another person with an unpleasant or difficult / difficult conversation - all this harms the psyche. Gradually, unspoken claims, discontent, and other thoughts are transformed into irritation, aggression, anger, resentment, resentment and anger. You need to learn to express your emotions, transform them into thoughts accessible to other people. You should also learn to find compromises and adequate solutions in difficult situations.
Not suppress, but release. Psychologists note that suppressed aggression has a very toxic effect on the human psyche. Of course, you can learn to restrain your emotions, in some cases it is even necessary. However, it is not worth constantly accumulating this negative feeling in yourself, without giving it any outlet. This can lead not only to a sharp outburst of rage, when the patience of the psyche runs out, but also to the development of various disorders, to psychosomatic pathologies. Sports is a great way to release aggression. A couple of hours at the gym can help you get rid of your anger. Screaming, watching sports or watching a movie emotionally, even hitting a pillow instead of a punching bag can all help out the aggression.
Take time out. Sometimes people around you or some current events can increase the level of aggression. In addition, as fatigue accumulates, irritability increases, a person becomes nervous, twitchy, hysterical, rude and angry. Therefore, rest, relaxation, breathing exercises, temporary interruption of contacts with unpleasant and annoying people will help bring yourself back to normal. Sometimes even a simple exit from the room, where any issue is being resolved, causing a surge of aggression, a walk in the air and a couple of deep breaths help to calm the senses.
Learn to live, let go and forget. Often, a surge of anger, aggression and irritation causes any unpleasant, cloudy, difficult memories. A person who lives to a greater extent in the past, for whom "mental gum" is typical, is more likely to experience bouts of indomitable anger. You need to learn to let go of unpleasant memories, live through situations and forget about them, so that in the future they do not provoke a wave of aggression that will not allow you to live normally. It is important to realize that the accomplished event is already in the past, even if a couple of minutes have passed since its completion. It is impossible to change it; it is usually unrealistic to influence the result. Therefore, why once again irritate and upset yourself, remembering what does not bring pleasure? The same goes for conversations with people that ended in some way unpleasantly. It makes no sense to argue over and over again about how one could respond to an offensive remark. But such thoughts perfectly feed internal aggression.
Change the direction of travel. Scientists note that a person who is in a state of aggression and anger has increased physical strength, endurance and a large supply of energy. Therefore, in situations of exacerbation, it is recommended to redirect your forces, to turn your attention to some side matter. For example, to disassemble the closet at home, throw out all the trash from the apartment, improve the plot in the country, help a neighbor finally finish the repair. In addition, being busy and physically active allows you to stop obsessing about an unpleasant situation that causes aggression.
