Love, unfortunately, does not always last forever. It would seem that everything is mutual, brings joy and happiness. But people break up. And it can be so incredibly difficult to forget a person, to cope with feelings of longing and loneliness. Suffering brings invaluable spiritual experience, but sometimes it also destroys a person from the inside. How to avoid this and learn to live without a loved one?
Instructions
Step 1
Understand your feelings, evaluate your attitude towards your partner. What are you experiencing? Love or a sense of ownership, fear of loneliness, fear of emptiness, inability to live your own life and the desire to live someone else's? Find the strength to admit your mistakes and shortcomings. Stop blaming others and yourself for what happened. If you are suffering, it means that your problems are hidden in this.
Step 2
Work through the situation. On a piece of paper, tell your love story and describe the feelings that bring you suffering. Sign at the bottom "It was in my life." Psychologists advise to tear and discard this sheet of paper.
Step 3
On the second sheet, write down your thoughts on how you feel, what qualities you lack in order to become strong, independent and happy. Keep this sheet, it will help you maintain strength in yourself.
Step 4
You figured out yourself, placed the necessary points and accents in your feelings and experiences. It's time to stop and stop practicing self-criticism. Set a different goal for yourself - to heal mental wounds.
Step 5
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, talking about your suffering and pain with your friends. Do not lock yourself in four walls, walk more, chat with friends, do something interesting for you, go to exhibitions, cinema, theaters, read books. In general, enjoy each new day. Learn to feel happiness from the most mundane things. Be proud of your, albeit small, victories at work, in school.
Step 6
Avoid meeting and talking with your ex. Erase, if necessary, his phone numbers, email addresses.
Step 7
Train yourself to think that this love is not the only one. If this person was in your life, if you are suffering now, it means that fate has taught you a lesson so that you can take out something important and necessary for the future from him. And if you draw the right conclusions, perhaps tomorrow you will meet your new love and be happy.
