It is believed that female friendship does not exist. Such a thought firmly stuck in the minds of people, especially among the representatives of the stronger half. No matter how they deny this fact, there is friendship between women.
A friend is the closest person with whom you can share the joys of victory and the bitterness of defeat. You can ask her for advice. Often this light feeling poisons such a thing as envy. The green demon that has settled inside is sometimes very difficult to eradicate.
First of all, do not blame yourself for the appearance of such an emotion. Envy is the same feeling as joy, love, jealousy, and people cannot do without it. Paying attention to successful people, you can understand what you want from life. The main thing is that this emotion does not develop into something more (hatred).
The main reasons for envy
There are moments in a person's life that cause envy more often than others. These include:
- Money. Its occurrence is obvious when one friend has a good income, while the second is interrupted from penny to penny, saving every ruble.
- Children. In particular, childbirth and the number of toddlers.
- Family status. Happy relationship, marriage.
- Figure. Physically, a friend is considered more attractive, thinner.
Can friendship be preserved?
There are many reasons for envy, especially between girlfriends. Loving husband, happy family, successful children, gorgeous figure, career. Is it possible to save friendship if the worm of envy has already started?
The first thing to do is sit down and analyze the situation. Maybe she was just lucky, or maybe she has come a long way of problems and disappointments, which may not be seen right away. For example, one of the friends was offered a good position, but the other was not. Why did it happen? Maybe the first one works better, or she stays late, or she has an affair with her boss. Will the second one also be able to sacrifice free time? And risking a relationship by accepting courtship from an unpleasant person?
On the other hand, is the first friend happy, having what the second wants. Doesn't she have less reasons for envy? It is worth remembering that friendship is not communication of the same people, but of different people who complement each other. If there is no desire to lose a friend, then you need to try to maintain this relationship. Envy will always appear in some specific moments, but you need to be able to restrain it and rejoice in your friend's victories.
