The common expression "a bad world is better than a good quarrel" often makes people put up with injustice, aggression, rudeness and selfishness of others. Meanwhile, if you look at it, then this maxim does not always correspond to the truth.
Politics and diplomacy
Historically, the idea that strained peaceful relations without open conflicts are better than noble, but still battles, was formed as one of the principles of state diplomatic policy. Indeed, any military confrontation brings many problems to states: huge costs, falling morale, loss of a capable population, destroyed infrastructure - all this has forced politicians and diplomats to conclude that military action should be avoided to the last. After all, there are many other ways to demonstrate your own intransigence while avoiding casualties and destruction, such as customs duties.
Relationship between people
As for human relationships, everything is not so simple here. Of course, most people prefer to maintain the appearance of a "normal" relationship for as long as possible. For this, many make compromises, try to avoid sensitive topics in discussions, turn a blind eye to acts of outright aggression.
Unfortunately, in most cases, this behavior only leads to the fact that the conflict still goes into an active phase, but the participants, exhausted by attempts to maintain a "bad world", can no longer control their emotions. As a result, the unsuccessful peace no longer turns into a "good quarrel", but into a real war of destruction.
In situations where the transition of the conflict to the active phase may pose a danger to the health and life of you or your loved ones, it makes sense to make all possible concessions.
Perhaps it would be much more practical to allow disagreements to develop into open confrontation, but with respect for the norms of decency and ethics. After all, no one can be liked by everyone without exception, so quarrels and conflicts are inevitable. If a person is unsympathetic to you, and you are to him, attempts to establish full-fledged contact will still be doomed to failure. Therefore, you should not chase universal recognition and adoration, abandoning your principles and views for this.
Psychologists believe that the constant use of the phrase about "bad world" and "good quarrel" in the field of human relationships, can be caused by hypocrisy or fear of conflict.
It is better to honestly admit that you will not develop friendly relations with this or that person, which means that you can at least express your position without driving yourself into the framework of compromises and concessions. Moreover, sometimes such honesty and directness do you much more honor than trying to maintain a relationship.
