Two heads are not always better than one. There are turning points in a person's life when he must independently make a decision, weighing all the pros and cons. Close people, of course, can participate in this, but you should not take their advice as a guide to action.
Independent choice
Doubts are inherent in the person facing difficult choices. To get rid of them, he often turns to counselors - friends, relatives, loved ones, etc. Sometimes this gives positive results, and it also happens that close people pursuing good goals can inadvertently harm. Two heads are not always better than one. There are situations in which a person must independently make a choice, weigh the pros and cons, so that later the rest of his life does not regret his actions.
Listening to the opinion of close people, a person should not forget about his inner core. "Two heads" is good, but all fateful decisions must be made independently.
Where "two heads" are not appropriate?
Advice from loved ones is certainly a useful thing. However, one should not take them as a guide to action. For example, when choosing a life partner, a man should not sacredly listen to the opinion of his mother, who is passionately looking for new flaws in her. An applicant holding a list of universities in his hands must abstract from the obsessive opinions of relatives, listen to himself and choose what he considers necessary. There are many turning points in a person's life that require important decisions to be made. If you let them take their course or systematically use the services of an “alien” head, at the end of the path you will have a feeling of dissatisfaction with the undiscovered inner potential.
Should you listen to advice?
Good practical friendly advice is a great helper in many household chores. For example, it is difficult for a person to solve some difficult problem at work, to decide on a tour for a summer vacation, buying a new expensive suit, a gift for the second half for Valentine's Day, etc. In such situations, close people can not only advise, but also share their experience, review all possible options. In this case, we can confidently say that two heads are better than one. Without such support, a person would have made many more mistakes, stepped on the same rake, because, as you know, it is better to learn from someone else's experience.
Acting as an advisor, the main thing is not to drag the stick to your side. Excessive imposition of one's own opinion can harm loved ones.
Should I act as an advisor?
Advice should be given tactfully and unobtrusively. The main thing is to remember that no one is obliged to listen to them. It should not be forgotten that advice can not only help, but also harm. In order not to be extreme, it is better not to take an overly active part in the fateful decisions of loved ones.
