The principle "always say yes" can work great in the movies, while pretty annoying the main character. In reality, however, many are concerned about how to learn to refuse. After all, a simple word "no" can greatly simplify life, if you learn to say it in time.
To learn to refuse people, you need to know for sure that you really want it, and accept this for yourself as an axiom. Doubt only intensifies the atmosphere and prevents you from confidently and uncompromisingly saying “no” to a person.
The main thing is to never forget that saying no does not mean offending a person. And all subsequent grievances of the interlocutor are only a consequence of his intolerant and selfish nature and in no way detract from your kindness.
Denial is just denial. And even if it's hard for you to say the coveted word "no" when a person asks for help, remember that you should not cheat yourself. Looking for some hidden meaning in your own words is like cutting off the branch you are sitting on and harming yourself. Refusing a request to a friend or colleague, you just assert that you are not able to help him now and that is all!
Try to imagine that you are not saying “no” to the person himself, but to the question and request that you just heard. Do not get personal and then it will not seem to you that you offend the person. By refusing, you do not stop respecting the interlocutor, but speak out about what does not suit you right now.
Since two people may have completely different views on all aspects of life, it is not superfluous to explain the reason for their refusal in most cases. Many people try to take their interlocutor for wear, believing that long persuasion will change his decision. That is why you need to be decisive and, if necessary, duplicate your position several times. Then you will feel the long-awaited ease, because you have not sacrificed yourself to an obvious manipulator. Perhaps you will find out the true intentions of your environment, and you will be disappointed in many friends and colleagues. But this will only make you stronger and much calmer, because you will save your nerves by not doing what you do not want.
Imagine saying no means only choosing a certain path. Every person in his life makes a daily choice of what suits him best. This applies to food, clothing, movies and more. Therefore, “no” is not just a refusal, it is only an alternative to a positive answer.
It is clear that learning to say no takes a lot of courage. However, letting people unreasonably infringe on their rights is also not worth it. Respect yourself, then others will begin to appreciate you and respect your work.
