Refusal is an integral part of human life. If people don't say no, they will be used by all and sundry. What if you feel guilty about rejection? How to avoid unnecessary remorse? Learn to deny people the right way.
Instructions
Step 1
Decide if you want to do what you are asked to do. When you receive an offer, you must figure out for yourself whether you really want to do it. You can only respond to an offer when you have clearly decided whether you need it or not. Tell yourself: "No, I don't need this!"
Step 2
Say no to your interlocutor. Don't be afraid to offend the person. If you do everything right, then resentment or obvious anger will not follow. Give reasons for your refusal. Give reasons why you cannot or do not want to comply with the request. When speaking, use the pronoun "I" more often. Speak clearly without confusion. Do not make excuses, but argue!
Step 3
What is the reason for the refusal? The reason can be both real and fictional. However, remember that it must be clear to the interlocutor. He must agree with you and accept your refusal. Don't be rude or harsh. Speak calmly, fix your gaze on the bridge of the interlocutor's nose. A running glance and lack of confidence in your voice can make it clear to the other person that you are uncomfortable, and he will put pressure on you.
Step 4
Refuse by complimenting. When refusing, tell the other person something nice. For example, you might say, "Great idea, but …". The person must understand that you want to fulfill his request and, if not for the circumstances, you would certainly have complied with it.
Step 5
Repeat your refusal. Psychologists say that a person needs to hear a refusal three times before he realizes that it is no longer possible to obtain consent. Be patient. Respond to all persuasions with a firm refusal. Be calm and in control.
Step 6
Train with your friends. Ask a friend to pester you with any request. Refuse him. Ask him to point out your shortcomings and mistakes in refusal: shifting eyes, uncertain voice, gentleness. Over time, rejections will become much easier for you.
