There is a category of people who always live at someone else's expense, and live happily ever after. They arrange their personal well-being, parasitizing on human participation and sympathy. You pay for them in restaurants and cinemas, you submit reports for them, you spend your money and time on them. Taking advantage of your kindness, they know how to arrange everything in such a way that the desire to help them arises involuntarily. This can and should be fought.
Instructions
Step 1
Start simple - be aware of the problem. Without this, it will be impossible to change the situation. Try to understand how selfless your relationship is. If you analyze it, it's not hard to see the motives behind your friend, loved one, or colleague.
Step 2
Try to identify moments that seem suspicious to you, and then gently and tactfully deny your loved one any little thing. Then watch his reaction. If the person does not pay special attention to what happened, your relationship is not in danger. But if a person shows his resentment and tries to get something from you again, it is better to tune in in advance to a quick break in the relationship - the person will understand that there is nothing to take from you and will stop contacting you.
Step 3
With colleagues, the situation is a little more complicated, since parasitic colleagues are quite capable of breaking your life. They need to refuse them even more gently and as unobtrusively as possible. The first time, you can say that you are in a hurry to submit the report and simply do not have time to help; another time, report an important meeting with the most serious air. Continue tactfully but steadily to bend your line each time. The main thing is that by no means let your colleague understand that you know everything about his consumer intentions. Believe me, such a parasite will retire by itself after a while, because you will lose all value in his eyes.
Step 4
Saying “no” to a sweet and friendly person for the first time is always difficult, but having done it once, the next time it will be easier to refuse. Observing a person for a while, you will clearly understand who is in front of you and what he needs from you.
