Ivan Urgant, a famous TV presenter and actor, once said a wonderful phrase: “I don't choose friends. This activity is stupid and useless. It is much more interesting for me to choose vegetables on the market. Friends are gifts of fate. " However, nothing prevents a person from acquiring a large number of acquaintances, so that it would be easier for fate to select "gifts" from them.
Necessary
desire to communicate, self-confidence, benevolence
Instructions
Step 1
Remember if there are people in your environment with whom you have a so-called nodding acquaintance: neighbors at the entrance, classmates (classmates, colleagues), shop assistants. You are used to exchanging greetings and small phrases with them. What prevents you from getting to know each other better by starting a casual conversation? Just do not do this, if you see that the person is in a hurry, choose a more appropriate moment.
Step 2
Find a new hobby for yourself, or rather a few. You can make a huge number of acquaintances with those who share your interests by signing up for a gym, local cycling club, or any other leisure club. The main thing is to choose an activity that will delight you, even if you don't know much about it yet.
Step 3
Study your social media contact lists. Perhaps with these people you will become good pen pals or even in reality. If you have few contacts, expand your acquaintances on the social network through, for example, various communities and interest groups. Create new accounts on those sites where you have not registered yet.
Step 4
Meet people on the street, in cinemas, cafes and other public places. Go to the person you are interested in, smile and ask something. For example, standing at a bus stop, ask how long the bus with the number you need has passed. After receiving the answer, ask the interlocutor's route, if he is in a positive mood, the conversation will start.
Step 5
Evaluate new acquaintances for common interests and worldviews. Chat more with those you like. You can even organize a new company in this way, and not merge into an already formed one. Invite a few people to hang out together, continue to subtly learn about their life, which will help rapprochement.
Step 6
Connect with new friends, letting your relationship develop. Be prepared that someone will drop out, but there will certainly be those with whom you will meet for many years, friendship with whom will be tested by time and will flow into trusting cooperation. These are the people with whom you will go through life's difficulties and celebrate personal successes.
Step 7
To have more such friends, continue to expand your circle of acquaintances, develop as a person, read good books, including on the psychology of relationships. If you are flexible, ready for casual communication and open conversations, friends will become an integral part of your life.
