We all love to argue, foaming at the mouth, proving our exceptional righteousness. But far from every time it is possible to enjoy the taste of victory, since the opponent turns out to be more armed and prepared.
Instructions
Step 1
Most importantly, avoid negative attitudes. Treat the argument positively, as a kind of game and do not allow quarrels. Decide that the argument is not a matter of life and death for you, it is just an interesting task that you need to complete.
Step 2
Be calm and sober. Emotions in a dispute are not only unnecessary, but also thoroughly interfere. You stop perceiving the words of the interlocutor with your mind, and instead transfer them to the sphere of emotions, which causes you not a constructive response, but streams of indignation and anger.
Step 3
All your arguments should reflect reality, no assumptions, subjective opinions or, which is generally not acceptable, fantasies. What you say must be 100% true and easy to verify.
Step 4
The arguments that you give in defense of your opinion should be presented in a logical chain and have a clear causal relationship with the subject of the dispute. Do not allow confusion, jumping, do not pull by the ears that which has nothing to do with the dispute. As soon as you stumble in this place, you immediately lose points in front of your opponent.
Step 5
Arguments should be in the interests of the opponent, and not reject them. It is a common mistake when disputants give such arguments that do not touch the other, respectively, they have no evidentiary effect. Let your arguments relate directly to your opponent and his life.
Step 6
The same applies to the values of those involved in the dispute - the arguments must correspond to them. To some extent, this is a moment of manipulation, but it works flawlessly, since the opponent looks at the object differently, because he saw his personal interest and reflection of his values in your point of view.
Step 7
Be sure to listen to the interlocutor. Don't interrupt or shout. Leave your lines of disagreement at the time when you are given the floor. These are such unspoken rules that allow you to conduct a dispute very intelligently, not turn it into a squabble and, at the same time, still find the very truth.
