The ability to insist on one's own, i.e. the ability to defend one's own point of view in a dispute is a very important moment in our life. Applying this skill, a person begins to feel much more confident, realizes his needs and desires, and shows persistence in achieving them. He does not allow others to manipulate his actions and thus takes full responsibility for everything that happens in his life on himself.
Instructions
Step 1
First you need to understand that your opinion has a right to exist, regardless of the fact that it is not supported by others. Remember that if some people at one time did not go against everyone, then we would still think that the Earth has the shape of a disk.
Step 2
The ability to insist on your own implies the realization that you, as a free person, have rights. For example, you have the right to ask for what you need, the right to any choice, and the right to refuse someone. And most importantly, you have the right to accept yourself as you are, along with all your shortcomings.
Step 3
Each point of view should only be taken as an opinion that can be challenged. Any person, no matter how authoritative he is for you, must be perceived as a person capable of making mistakes. First of all, you need to gain self-confidence.
Step 4
Any dispute should be taken as a chance to discuss your idea, to test its weight in the eyes of other people.
Step 5
In order to stand firm in an argument, start working on the art of communication. It includes, first of all, a clear awareness of their needs, because people often perceive you exactly the way you want it. Ideal communication should be based on respect for yourself and others. Self-respect, in this case, can mean self-control, initiative in an argument. After all, when you lose control of yourself, the argument will be lost.
Step 6
Also, in order to successfully defend your point of view in any dispute, it is important to know the basics of psychology, the principles of contact with other people, and be able to behave correctly in the discussion. First of all, you need to determine the values that your interlocutor is focused on, manifested in his ideals, interests and desires. Only by conducting a dispute on an equal footing with an opponent is there a chance to win the discussion. Good results will be obtained by using special methods of argumentation.
Step 7
In an attempt to defend your point of view, try to maintain a sense of proportion. It is necessary to distinguish between situations when it is better to retreat so as not to irritate and dislike the opponent in the dispute. The dispute should not escalate into a war. Avoid blaming, harshness, and rudeness. In the event that you start to get annoyed, it is better to postpone the conversation until better times.
Step 8
Try not to judge the interlocutor in the event that he is wrong, but continues to insist on his own. Remember that only wise and patient people can understand another. Understanding the reasons for such actions of the opponent will give you the opportunity to take a broader look at the issue.
Step 9
Do not be offended by the lack of support from loved ones or their misunderstanding. They are often the biggest obstacle to success in order to protect them. Show them that you are confident in your abilities, demonstrate your achievements, act in a friendly and kind way.
Step 10
If your opponent did not understand your arguments, and you were defeated in an argument, then admit it without concealing resentment, but also without losing your individuality. In case of victory, behave with restraint and modesty, be sure to thank the interlocutor for understanding.
