A person who does not want to accept reality is doomed to live in a world he has invented. At first, this is a relief for him and helps to maintain a sense of confidence. But gradually he drives himself into this trap, losing touch with what is happening and breaking away from reality, to which, sooner or later, he will have to open his eyes. The sooner you begin to perceive reality as it is, the more you can achieve in life.
Instructions
Step 1
Breaking away from reality, you are simply forced to make mistakes, because you will incorrectly evaluate people and ongoing events, phenomena. And this will happen in any case - you look at the world through rose-colored glasses or see everything in a gloomy color. To adequately perceive the surrounding reality, you need to understand and instill in yourself some important points.
Step 2
Whether you like it or not, the concept of justice does not always work and good does not always triumph over evil. Of course, you should always hope for the best, but this does not mean to exclude the possibility of trouble. You need to be ready for them and not get depressed if they do start. It is better to treat them as inevitability and direct your forces not to suffering, but to overcome it.
Step 3
No one has ever promised you happiness just by the fact of your birth. It really depends a lot on you. Happiness is not a product of big money or power. Learn to appreciate what you have and find it in every little thing - a sunbeam caressing the spring greenery, your baby's smile, a friend's hand laid on your shoulder in difficult times.
Step 4
Understand that you have the right to make mistakes and that it's okay when you make them. A mistake is not a tragedy, provided that you understand it and draw the appropriate conclusions. Nobody is perfect, so admit that other people can be wrong too. Give them the opportunity to fix what has been done.
Step 5
Accept that you cannot fix the existing reality. You can only reconsider your attitude towards her. People around you do not live the way you want it, but the way they do it. They are not perfect: aggressive, stupid, narcissistic. But you have to accept them as they are. Consider their qualities when planning a relationship, and you will not have to give up on them. It should not be taken as a betrayal that a person can change his views and plans, because everyone, first of all, cares about their own well-being. If you are left in trouble, it simply means that the person is looking in a different direction.
Step 6
You should not worry that reality does not correspond to your ideas about it. Accumulate your energy and direct it to do what you have in mind and do not waste yourself on what you cannot change.
