First dates, kisses, midnight conversations - what quivering feelings are filled with the time when the relationship is just beginning. It seems natural to spend every free minute with the chosen one, and the rest of the time to think only about him. Over the years, the beloved man becomes almost dear, but … something is missing. There is no past passion, romance is replaced by routine, and conversations are limited to everyday topics. How to return the former "spark" to relations?
Instructions
Step 1
Remember how you were when you met your husband? Most likely, a young carefree girl, generous with smiles and praise. It is this girl that your husband fell in love with. Analyze your behavior to date. Maybe you lack coquetry? Try to add a little playfulness to your behavior. Joke more, swear less over household trifles.
Step 2
Most men are visuals, so it is very important for them that the woman who is nearby is well-groomed and beautiful. But, unfortunately, the fairer sex often save on themselves, preferring to spend money on the needs of the family. If you did the same before, then it's time to tidy up your wardrobe and appearance. Go to the gym to tone your muscles or shed those extra pounds. Flip through fashion magazines, try on a few looks, and go shopping. If you prefer a sporty style of clothing, then you should try wearing more feminine outfits - dresses, skirts, light blouses and tops. And of course, get a couple of lace lingerie sets. Such a transformation will not go unnoticed!
Step 3
There are topics that are best discussed with friends, but not with a man. This is especially true of shopping, gossip, popular reality shows, as well as female physiology. Try to talk less and listen more. But do not bombard a man with questions. Just don't interrupt when he starts talking and show interest. Use active listening techniques: head nods, exclamations of approval, smiles. But negative assessments and generalizations are best avoided, look for an excuse to praise your loved one, and not hurt.
Step 4
Give up trying to change your partner. Once you fell in love with him with all the shortcomings, so attempts to remake a man "for yourself" are at least unfair. In addition, the manipulations that have to be resorted to when trying to train an adult do not paint a woman at all. It is better to remember more often about his merits and talents.
Step 5
A common female mistake is to completely dissolve in the family and give up your favorite hobby. Remember what you were fond of before? Embroidery, knitting, skiing - the main thing is that the business is to your liking. A passionate person is in constant development, has a positive outlook on life, so it is much more interesting to communicate with him.
