Frequent quarrels and scandals can destroy that fragile and valuable feeling, which is called love. It is much easier to follow your emotions and temperament and develop a conflict, but it is much better to learn how to restrain unreasonable impulses and not lose loved ones. Try to live in harmony and harmony with your loved ones.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to calm down. Go to another room, say all the offensive words in front of the mirror, or write them on a piece of paper, which you then need to tear off and flush the pieces in the toilet. To avoid further scandal, calm down the interlocutor too. You won't be able to talk calmly if both of you are annoyed.
Step 2
To avoid an argument, tell your partner that you will continue the conversation later when you can calmly think. Then take a deep breath and change your environment or activity (take a walk in the park, watch your favorite movie). Never enter into an argument with an irritated person, he still will not pay attention to your words. Your silence will cool the interlocutor. Do not pay attention to offensive words yourself, let the person calm down.
Step 3
If you find it difficult to ignore the irritated interlocutor, you yourself cannot calm down, drink tea with infusion of motherwort or valerian. These herbs will help balance your nervous system. Offer the same drink to the other person. Only then can the conversation be continued.
Step 4
There is another way to calm down. Inflate the balloon slowly until it bursts. From this action, your breathing will return to normal, which will have a good effect on the condition of the nerves. Waiting for the balloon to explode will distract you from the current problem. If you want to avoid a scandal with a very close person, you can apply this method with him. Your unusual actions will defuse the situation.
Step 5
Try not to quarrel over trifles. Just calmly discuss the situation together. Do not scream and do not allow irritated intonation. Speak calmly, the interlocutor must understand that you do not intend to argue, but want to resolve the issue peacefully.
Step 6
If you are constantly reproached for something, do not make excuses or argue. Endure as long as possible, but when the urge to respond becomes too strong, do not keep everything to yourself. Calmly point out to the interlocutor his own shortcomings. Remember all the times when a person offended you. But don’t raise your tone and don’t go into insults. The interlocutor who did not expect such a reaction will not want to repeat it.
