There is an opinion that brawling is bad. But this attitude is not entirely correct. Its roots go back to childhood, when parents forbade quarreling and saying bad words. According to psychologists, it is possible and necessary to make trouble. After all, the main goal of the scandal is to clarify the opponent's point of view in order to better understand his nature, character, find out your similarities and differences, and clarify certain details of your relationship.
Instructions
Step 1
Immediately understand for yourself the limit that you will not overstep, despite the greatest anger. For example, if you are a man, never raise your hand against a woman in a fit of anger. This also applies to those who are much weaker than you - children and the elderly. And a woman during a quarrel with her husband should not do frivolous acts, for example, kick her husband out of the house. If you really want to get a divorce, then such a step should be deliberate, because there will be no way back. Don't act under the influence of anger.
Step 2
Do not use phrases like “it's your fault / fault…” or “you did the wrong thing…”. Each of your statements should begin with the pronoun "I": "I am so disappointed (a) …", "I feel insulted (oh) …", etc. There is a colossal difference between these two approaches in sorting out the relationship. The first option is a categorical assessment of the person and the general situation, which always pushes the opponent to argue and prove the opposite.
Step 3
Use "I" more often during a scandal, thus you will convey your feelings and feelings, allow your opponent to assess the situation himself. After such statements, the offender will think and understand that you are really worried, and not trying to shift the blame on him.
Step 4
Never get personal: do not call a person names, do not speak badly about his loved ones, do not touch his physical disabilities or external flaws, religion, nationality, etc. These are forbidden techniques that should remain absolutely forbidden for you.
Step 5
Do not start a fight just because you are bored and lack the "fire" in the relationship. Some people deliberately provoke their partners, so that later they will violently reconcile in bed. Do not do this, because then you will not be able to satisfy your desires in another way, and in order to have sex, you will first have to fight a lot.
Step 6
Do not scandal in front of strangers, children or relatives. It is also not worth remembering all the misdeeds, mistakes that once were during the showdown.
