Sometimes people are afraid of being alone, without the support of family and friends. To be left without attention, communication and recognition is the worst nightmare for some individuals. By understanding where the fear of loneliness comes from, you can determine how to overcome it.
Avoiding problems
Some people see loneliness as a potential danger because they are afraid to be alone with their own thoughts. They do not want to think about any problems or dive into self-contemplation or face unresolved issues. In this case, society is an escape from its own stream of consciousness.
If you are oppressed by some unpleasant thoughts, worried about the future, or, conversely, worried about the past, you may be burdened by the fact that you do not have company. Of course, the best way out is to work on yourself, but as long as you prefer to keep quiet about problems, friends, family and colleagues will be an outlet for you.
In this case, worries do not require discussion, and friends and family are needed to enjoy communication on other, more pleasant topics.
Low self-esteem
If a person absolutely cannot be alone, perhaps this is a consequence of his low self-esteem. Such insecure people constantly need recognition and approval. Therefore, they can hardly endure loneliness.
Sometimes, due to a lack of self-love, a person transfers his admiration and respect to someone else and becomes dependent on his society.
This type of people needs confirmation of their importance and need. In difficult situations, they cannot decide what to do without someone's advice. It happens that they start a relationship only in order to prove to themselves or to themselves that they are attractive and worthy of sympathy, and there is no question of real feelings.
Boredom
Insufficient people can be simply bored without company. If a person has no interests, hobbies and activities, talking with other people can be one of his main entertainments. When a person does not develop as a person and a professional, does not pay attention to his own talents, he will be bored with himself.
In addition, there are individuals who receive energy from communication. After talking with such "vampires" others feel a certain loss of strength and spirit. But those who "fed" at the expense of the interlocutor feel great. Tonus and drive, good mood are provided for some time, and then again there is a need to exchange energy.
Sadness
Some people cannot be alone when they feel bad. And there are many such individuals. It just so happens that a person is born already a member of society. And if in joy he can somehow manage without a loved one nearby, albeit with difficulty, then in moments of grief, without the support of another individual, he suffers greatly.
During periods of real grief, a person may try to isolate himself from society, reduce contacts with others to zero. This is natural, but not constructive for a person experiencing a life tragedy. It turns out that the fear of loneliness in some situations is more than justified and is a defensive reaction of a person.
