A person who has been betrayed feels crushed, humiliated and insulted - these are natural emotions, a kind of protective reaction of the body. Universal recipes will help to go through the adaptation period and get used to the situation.
Instructions
Step 1
Give yourself time. In order to realize what happened, accept the situation and think it over, it takes time. Usually, after the discovery of the fact of betrayal, events develop rapidly - scandals, tantrums, impulsive decisions and actions. At this point, it is very difficult to stop, but in order to act adequately, one must try.
Step 2
Don't make scandals. Loud statements and decisive actions are justified only in one case - you have clearly decided not to continue the relationship, and you want a break. As a rule, it takes some time to think it over, but if you have decided everything for yourself a long time ago, then betrayal is just an excuse for parting. In all other cases, it makes sense to wait until emotions subside and think things over soberly.
Step 3
Find the cause. Be honest with yourself - there are almost always two people to blame for cheating. Analyze your behavior, look for the motives of such an act. You shouldn't pounce on your husband with questions - you still won't learn anything new. Have the courage to accept the chill in a relationship that has been around for a long time, acknowledge your mistakes and think if you could change something.
Step 4
Discuss the situation with your spouse. This will be the most difficult but necessary conversation - it is always harder to fight alone. Remain calm and confident - the man should feel that he can confide in you, speak sincerely and openly. In the course of the conversation, find out his plans for the future - whether he intends to keep the family or prefers to part now. Together, work out a strategy to overcome the crisis in your relationship.
Step 5
Do not involve children and relatives in solving the problem. Covering herself with children or appealing to her husband's conscience with the help of her parents is the worst thing a deceived woman can do. The relationship between spouses is an intimate and very personal matter, and therefore only you will have to decide everything.
Step 6
Accept the situation and try to forgive. If you let all the pain through yourself, make a final decision and try to “let go” of the person, then half the battle has already been done. The hardest part is forgiveness. You will have to find a way on your own, trying and making mistakes. But this must be done, regardless of whether you stay together or get divorced - an unforgiven resentment can poison the soul for many years, preventing you from starting a new life.
