Parting with a loved one is a common life situation. The realization of the need for this step hurts, the accomplishment strikes a real blow. However, sometimes this simply cannot be avoided.
Instructions
Step 1
Accept the breakup. There is no need to try to detain a person, press on him or beg him to return. If the need to leave is ripe, this indicates the impossibility of moving on in a specific life period.
Step 2
After all, this person has the right to choose and the right to freedom. Let go of him and mentally, ceasing to flatter the hope of a magical renewal of the relationship. By doing this, you will only torture yourself and put an end to your own progress.
Step 3
Understand that if you are destined to converge again, then only after certain changes in the characters of both. But not in the current state.
Step 4
Constantly work with irrational thoughts that will torture you in the early stages after breaking up. These are self-deprecating thoughts filled with despair. It occurs to a person that no one will love him anymore, that he will never meet a suitable partner. Identify them in yourself, write them out in the form of quotations on paper and analyze. Look for a basis and evidence for each of them and understand that they do not have any confirmation. There are a number of psychological techniques for dealing with irrational thoughts that can be found freely on the Internet.
Step 5
Forgive the departed person or yourself if you see your guilt in something. Understand that the breakup is almost always to blame for both. Everyone will still have their own truth in their heads. In addition, holding a grudge means continuing to be attached to a person. By forgiving, you leave his guilt on his own conscience, and free yourself.
Step 6
Each crisis event is a test for a person, which can make him stronger. Drowning in self-pity is the way to the bottom. Analyze your relationship, find flaws and mistakes. At the end of this analysis, you will be armed with new knowledge and will be able to avoid repeating the situation in the future.
Step 7
Set yourself the right self-improvement goals for the near future. Try to work on your flaws, focus on your personality. Stop dwelling on the topic of new love relationships, they will come in due time.
